Wolverine Posted August 31, 2012 Report Share Posted August 31, 2012 quick update on the issues i posted on earlier!managed to organise a good ol' friendly hang out earlier this week with most of the old guard! went well, had a decent turnout, plus we met up down at the local gay bar so had plenty of friendly faces stopping by as well. definitely a step in the right direction to ending some of that social isolation. my partner and a few others all caught up again yesterday for coffee and we've been invited to a party on the weekend. so win freaking win thanks y'all!Nice! Good to hear and good for you for taking that first step! Quote Wolverine Level X Mutant Link to comment
aj_rock Posted August 31, 2012 Report Share Posted August 31, 2012 Damn, these threads of pure awesome-sauce seem to sneak up on me.Subbed. Quote Why must I put a name on the foods I choose to eat and how I choose to eat them? Rather than tell people that I eat according to someone else's arbitrary rules, I'd rather just tell them, I eat healthy. And no, my diet does not have a name.My daily battle log! Link to comment
maggerson Posted September 3, 2012 Author Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 managed to organise a good ol' friendly hang out earlier this week with most of the old guard! went well, had a decent turnout, plus we met up down at the local gay bar so had plenty of friendly faces stopping by as well. definitely a step in the right direction to ending some of that social isolation. my partner and a few others all caught up again yesterday for coffee and we've been invited to a party on the weekend. so win freaking win thanks y'all!You know, your partner's friends might not have been sure how to approach the old friends, too, so I'm really super glad this has worked out!A can also be Allied. I've seen GLBTQQIAAPT as an actual acronym, folks. (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, queer, questioning, intersex, allied, asexual, pansexual, two-spirit) It gets a little crazyGood call on the A... Anyone want to try acronymizing that one? Quote Don't write a check with your mouth you can't cash with your ass Link to comment
Avistew Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 Personaly I'm a fan of the acronyms that show each letter only once, but the letter represents more than one thing. It seems to me that it's a good way to say people can be different and equally acceptable. So GBLTQAIP for instance could be Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian, transgender, Transexual and Two-spirit, Queer and Questioning, Asexual, Agender and Ally, Intersex, Pansexual and Poly.I have found it easier to just say GSM, though (Gender and Sexual Minorities). Hell, you can even say GSM+A to make sure allies are welcome, but it seems to me 3 letters that are pretty inclusive is better than having to add letters for everyone. Quote Link to comment
azsf Posted September 4, 2012 Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 so i've watched queer as folk (US version), my partner has me onto the L word (currently on season 3), and we just started on lip service (essentially the scottish L word). anyone else seen all 3? which is your favourite? personally im digging lip service more than the L word, but queer as folk wins out with nostalgia. used to stay up late and watch it on SBS when i was 14/15, and it was mind blowing. i think that was probably my first experience with gay culture being made 'sexy'. good times Quote [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] AZSF - lvl 4 assassin STR - 9 | DEX - 12 | STA - 10.5 | CON - 7 | WIS - 8.5 | CHA - 1 Link to comment
nightlight Posted September 4, 2012 Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 i loved lip service. there is a big twist that was super unexpected. enjoy! Quote "Come with me if you want to lift" -The Brominator "Later, I would learn that coincidences are the most planned things in the world. Later, I would learn that every single moment is a coincidence." - Douglas Coupland "Anyone who doesn't want french fries every day is a commie." - AngelaTheGeek Current Challenge INSTAGRAM!! find me on twitter Link to comment
maggerson Posted September 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 I really loved Lip Service, partially for the accents, and partially because DS Sam Murray (I will either grow up to be or date Heather Peace, I just know it). I want to pretend that some parts of the L Word never happened, like Jenny Schecter, and god help me but I do really love Brian Kinney SO MUCH. Quote Don't write a check with your mouth you can't cash with your ass Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted September 4, 2012 Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 i absolutely love this thread. I dare say that if any bashing was being done on this forum and it was allowed I would quickly leave it. Glad we can all have a safe place (straight, gay, asexual or otherwise) to talk about what we want. Rock on. Quote Link to comment
CyningaDena Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 I'm bringing this back to talk about a health question re: the anal sexy. Just fair warning for any readers who think that's all one giant no-zone.I prefer to play catcher. My bf is an all-star pitcher. This means my prostate gets punched in the face like a cage fighter. I'm not certain he's designed for that sort of abuse over the long haul. I imagine my prostate in 20 years with a crooked nose and a cauliflower ear. A couple times a year, my prostate will "flare up" -- not an infection, but it gets all swollen and hurty. For about a week I cannot sit down or stop peeing. Does anyone else get this? In the absence of infection or cancer I just assume it's related to all of the sexy-time beatings; is there something different I should have checked? The first time it happened I went to a doctor who poked it some, declared that I have a "boggy" prostate, and sent me home with my hat in my hand. Wtf? Are there marsh reeds in there? Rare birds?Anyone else experience anything similar? What do you do to address it? Quote Wood Elf Ranger LEVEL 1, It don't mean a thing if I don't hear that ding: My Epic Quest Link to comment
azsf Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Glad to hear you've been to the doctor first! Those guys are alright i can't say that my prostate has ever flared up, but i've had micro tears and what feels like internal bruising. generally this follows poorly planned rough sex (hello drunken hookups) or bad angles. is there a common position that you find causes the inflammation? Quote [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] AZSF - lvl 4 assassin STR - 9 | DEX - 12 | STA - 10.5 | CON - 7 | WIS - 8.5 | CHA - 1 Link to comment
katscratch Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 hi all CyningaDena, I'm with azsf in wondering if there's a pattern in certain positions-- a friend of mine finds doggy style to bash his prostate pretty good--he finds that to be the best angle for awesome stimulation however, so he's had enough repeats to figure out there's a pattern to his needing to urinate constantly after sex every now and then. Quote Link to comment
knopfler Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 This is the best I found. http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/bogginessI gather your doc basically said your hoohoo was retaining water. Quote It's what you learn after you know it all that counts. - Earl Weaver Link to comment
Atalan Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 As far as I know, bruising causes there to be extra fluid in tissue. Your prostate might have been all bruised. I will echo the questions about position and if that relates to the ouchy-hurty.Since I neglected to identify earlier. I am a straight male in a male body. However, on occasion I like to crossdress. Sexually, pegging is a thing for me. Quote Link to comment
CyningaDena Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 I've not noticed that the flare-ups are directly connected to one specific romp -- I've had them during stretches of we-are-not-shagging, and they're different from the next-day tenderness. I assumed it was the result of continual bruising, the way a boxer eventually slurs when he talks and what can ya do? But it seems that my experience may not be typical here. Quote Wood Elf Ranger LEVEL 1, It don't mean a thing if I don't hear that ding: My Epic Quest Link to comment
LRB Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 Deleting my last post - hadn't realized how far behind the times I was . . . I've been away for a while and responded to one of the early posts in this thread. That topic has now been thoroughly covered, so I'm not going to resurrect it, but did want to pop in and say 'hi,' and identify as an ally -- my best friends (I call them 'framily,' somewhere between friends and family, and one of them is my 'soul friend,' like soulmate, but not) are two married women with two kids about the same age as mine. I'm glad this thread is here, and glad these issues are being discussed. Quote LRB, Lifelong Rebel Badass || June 3 challenge thread"What I lack in ability, I make up in stubbornness" -me"Someone busier than you is working out right now" -my mom Link to comment
kasers Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 so i've watched queer as folk (US version), my partner has me onto the L word (currently on season 3), and we just started on lip service (essentially the scottish L word). anyone else seen all 3? which is your favourite? personally im digging lip service more than the L word, but queer as folk wins out with nostalgia. used to stay up late and watch it on SBS when i was 14/15, and it was mind blowing. i think that was probably my first experience with gay culture being made 'sexy'. good times I've watched all of the L word and all of Lip Service., Started watching the UK version of queer as folk a few days ago, mainly just because it is set where I live. I like Lip Service the best, I personally think it has a better story line that the L word. Just annoys me how short the seasons are! Plus I can't stand Jenny in the L word. Anyone watch the real L word? Quote Level 1 Adventurer [sTR-1][DEX-2][sTA-2][CON-4][WIS-3][CHA-3] Challenge thread Fitocracy Link to comment
animalcrackaz Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 I'm glad this thread is here! I am a happily partnered homosexual male(nearing the 7 year mark!), and it's refreshing to have a place to feel open about being myself. It's something I'm always guarded about, because I'm never sure who may respond negatively. Although I live near a fairly liberal community, it's an unfortunate reality that some people judge you almost exclusively based on your sexuality, which can be frustrating because I've always viewed being gay as a secondary characteristic in what makes up my personality. It seems like a lot of interesting ground has been covered in this thread already, and I'm looking forward to seeing where it goes.Be well, everyone! Quote Link to comment
Atalan Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 I've not noticed that the flare-ups are directly connected to one specific romp -- I've had them during stretches of we-are-not-shagging, and they're different from the next-day tenderness. I assumed it was the result of continual bruising, the way a boxer eventually slurs when he talks and what can ya do? But it seems that my experience may not be typical here.Well, you never know, it could be something unrelated and just coincidental. Did your doctor have any recommendations for what to do? Quote Link to comment
maggerson Posted September 12, 2012 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2012 It's something I'm always guarded about, because I'm never sure who may respond negatively. Although I live near a fairly liberal community, it's an unfortunate reality that some people judge you almost exclusively based on your sexuality, which can be frustrating because I've always viewed being gay as a secondary characteristic in what makes up my personality. Maybe this is just me, but I find this feeling exacerbated when I'm at the gym. I mean, I'm pretty out, I live in a liberal place, and I have a female workout partner who is just as bawdy and hilarious as me. But at the same time, the women I don't know... I worry that they think I'm coming on to them or checking them out. Am I crazy? Am I too concerned about others' comfort?Does this happen to anyone else? Quote Don't write a check with your mouth you can't cash with your ass Link to comment
AngelaTheGeek Posted September 12, 2012 Report Share Posted September 12, 2012 Well, hello there everyone... I have some catching up to do here!I am not a fan of labels, but since society insists that I wear some, here are mine:WomanGeek, Nerd, or Dork (take your pick)WeightlifterArtist (kind of)Cat lady (I'm pretty sure 4 qualifies me for this)LesbianPartner (only because I can't get married, otherwise this would be wife)AWESOMEI am so very happy to see this thread. I have never... I repeat NEVER, felt uncomfortable being open about my partner or my lifestyle on the boards, but it's really great to have a safe place for anyone who has.Oh, and my sister threatens to take away my lesbian card all the time because I have no idea what the hell is on the "agenda" that haters swear we have... Anyone else know what the hell is on it??? Quote 90+ Masters Weightlifter Current Lift PRs Snatch: 93kg/205lb // Clean and Jerk: 113kg/248lb // Back Squat: 170kg/375lb Spoiler 2016 USAW Senior Nationals - 6th place 2015 USAW American Open - 8th place 2015 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place 2014 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place 2013 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place Instagram - MyFitnessPal Link to comment
weirdquark Posted September 12, 2012 Report Share Posted September 12, 2012 Oh, and my sister threatens to take away my lesbian card all the time because I have no idea what the hell is on the "agenda" that haters swear we have... Anyone else know what the hell is on it??? Be fabulous? Quote I lift heavy things. Current Challenge Between Challenges Workout Log Sassafrass: a capella folk fantasy mythology Link to comment
zaika Posted September 12, 2012 Report Share Posted September 12, 2012 Oooh...I like this thread. Erm...can polyamorous folks play here too? I've censored myself already in this forum, carefully wording a post or two to cover my sexuality and partners to avoid...well, any misunderstandings or discomfort.Hoping to squeeze in here as a fully practicing bisexual if nothing else. Quote "If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." ~Bruce Lee Link to comment
AngelaTheGeek Posted September 12, 2012 Report Share Posted September 12, 2012 Be fabulous? THAT I am! Quote 90+ Masters Weightlifter Current Lift PRs Snatch: 93kg/205lb // Clean and Jerk: 113kg/248lb // Back Squat: 170kg/375lb Spoiler 2016 USAW Senior Nationals - 6th place 2015 USAW American Open - 8th place 2015 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place 2014 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place 2013 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place Instagram - MyFitnessPal Link to comment
azsf Posted September 12, 2012 Report Share Posted September 12, 2012 polys are welcome! I worry that they think I'm coming on to them or checking them out. Am I crazy? Am I too concerned about others' comfort?This is what being a guy is like, at any time. There's an age old axiom for dealing with this situation: if you're hot, it's not creepy my advice is to just focus on your workout while you're there, and who cares what other people think. strangely enough, most guys ive talked to in the gym enjoy being watched (or 'mired') by other men. you just have to take the 'no homo' jokes in your stride.I have no idea what the hell is on the "agenda" that haters swear we have... Anyone else know what the hell is on it?I'm pretty sure we're out to corrupt everyone to our hedonistic, moral-vacuum, sex-crazed lifestyle. which is apparently more dangerous to your health than smoking! hide your wife, hide your kids etc. Quote [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] AZSF - lvl 4 assassin STR - 9 | DEX - 12 | STA - 10.5 | CON - 7 | WIS - 8.5 | CHA - 1 Link to comment
Avistew Posted September 13, 2012 Report Share Posted September 13, 2012 Oooh...I like this thread. Erm...can polyamorous folks play here too? I've censored myself already in this forum, carefully wording a post or two to cover my sexuality and partners to avoid...well, any misunderstandings or discomfort.Hoping to squeeze in here as a fully practicing bisexual if nothing else. I'm poly too Welcome to this thread! People here seem pretty inclusive and accepting. Quote Link to comment
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