help

[shagy2303]

I need to talk to someone . I want to pull my self out of the hole I am in. But I am basically a habitual lier who is more focused on video games and crap than what I need to be . I am not the man of my house heck I wouldnt even consider my self a man at this point. I have delayed finishing my divorce because I am afra7d of losing my kids I basically quit anything to hard. And I am at a loss.

[shagy2303]

Here is the other part along with me basically messing every in my lif up I am also over weight and have not been able to shake it. Thes things go hand in had for me I have to break the cycle of failures.

[shagy2303]

I talked to you guys in chat and I realized I fail for a lot of reasons... here is my new begining http://db.tt/FoOICmE9 that is a basic spread sheet.

[tiberius]

Hang in there, buddy!

It's a long road to becoming who you were born to be but just make a plan and stick to it.

This is vague advice because I suppose that by now you have already read some materials on this forum or somewhere else and have an idea of what you need to know. If you haven't just ask away: I'm subscribing this thread!

What I really want to tell you is... to hang on and be strong. Be a fighter. You have it in you!

[El Exorcisto]

STOP CRYING!!!

 

I MEAN IT!!!

 

Done crying yet?

 

Good, now to the meat of the issue. Outside of the divorce, I found myself for a long time mimicking everything you've said. There came a point where we ran out of money and were forced to move in with my parents. They pointed us at decent jobs, kept a roof over our heads, and beat a few good habits into us. While what they did was astounding, there just came a point during the whole struggle that I realized it was time to shut the fuck up and get on with life.

 

You can sulk about how bad you think you suck, that's fine, you'll find yourself with lots of company. You can also get a better job, torch the X-Box, and start moving ahead. If your marriage is gone, then so be it, leave it in the past with the rest of your baggage. It's time to pick up some solid work ethic, some good habits, and gain some motivation from yourself.

 

Self pity is the worst kind. If you know what is wrong with you then get rid of everything that sucks about you...

 

Play too many video games? Napalm the X-Box

Watch porn too much? Stop buying lotion, you're a dude for Christ's sake, you shouldn't need that much lotion

Eat like shit? STOP EATING LIKE SHIT!!!

Need to learn how to cook? Buy some cookbooks and get acquainted with the produce and meat counter, NOT the freezer section

Tired of getting winded just from getting pumped up about Halo? Pick up a barbell, and FUCK Halo anyway, man

 

Seriously, it really is this simple. In a post-divorce world you will find yourself with precious little resources, so buying a new X-Box will not be in the budget. If you feel that is the root of your immediate problem, make it go away.

 

Make a list of why you suck, pick a piece to attack, and when you're done you will suck a little less. Optimally on a long enough timeline everyone should aspire to suck as little as possible.