Red1263 Posted November 29, 2012 Report Share Posted November 29, 2012 I'm single, and although I wouldn't mind a girl with some extra on her, but if she's not willing to address the issue, or thinks getting fit is dumb/pointless/etc. then that'd really be factored in my thinking. Level 25 Final Fantasy Rebel My Epic Quest | My Journey | Currently on the Trial of Orthos Str: 60 | Dex: 23 | Sta: 66 | Con: 28 | Wis: 55 | Cha: 14 Goals for 2021: Spoiler Build my brother a Destiny 2 Lamp Learn how to do a Handstand Play 1 song on the acoustic guitar Clean up the Christmas Decorations and finish setting up my apartment (hang things up, plus some other few things that need to be organized) Re-introduce Pull-ups into my routine Build a shelving unit next to my Desk "No matter what, if you can hold your head up high, you've done the right thing." "When you stand with your family, your family stands with you." "Write what needs to be written." Link to comment
JediJem Posted November 29, 2012 Report Share Posted November 29, 2012 I find it interesting (although I do not in any way say this as a criticism) that so many of you relate the importance of SO working out to weight, looks or improving oneself. Looking at it from the other side, being with someone who works out is incredibly important for me not because of how it affects the way they look, but because it's such an important part of my life and I need to be able to share that (just the fact of doing it). My last ex had zero interest in exercise, and really didn't get that aspect of me either, which was definitely a contributing factor to why it didn't work out (pun not intended). Always kick higher Link to comment
TheSavageBean Posted November 30, 2012 Report Share Posted November 30, 2012 I'm mostly looking for someone who shares my nerdy interests. I could claim that I care less about her fitness, but I do want her to be at least accepting/supportive of what I do. I'm not really in the market right now though. My Anime List - http://myanimelist.net/profile/speedy4122My Food/exercise log - http://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/topic/38056-beanlog/ Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted November 30, 2012 Report Share Posted November 30, 2012 i have a somewhat interesting topic in mind. Especially since this is nerd FITNESS (health and body etc)....Okay so it's no secret that I am a bit fan of pro wrestling. i used to train for and do it. we know this. Well i'm going back in january but...I was thinking about it and I may have come to a personal conviction problem. I feel that my body is the most important thing to me (second to my mental/emotional health of course), and I'm not sure if I should be damaging it the way I will be with pro wrestling. In pro wrestling a person has to literally do the exact opposite of your bodies natural reaction to protect itself. And this is stupid for a lot of reasons.My question, Men: Should we as health conscious individuals NOT be okay with the idea of activities like this? And if so then what about combat sports? Just curious as I'm starting to wonder if this is a stupid idea. But i'm going to do it anyway. just wondering if i shouldnt be okay with it. lol Link to comment
Church Posted November 30, 2012 Report Share Posted November 30, 2012 That's entirely up to you man. I know I personally want to get in shape so that I can do more of the things I want to. What's the point of being in amazing shape if you never do anything with it for fear of causing injury? I say have fun but be smart about it. "Oh, fear not in a world like this, And thou shalt know erelong, Know how sublime a thing it is, To suffer and be strong." - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow - Battle Log - MyFitnessPal - FitBIt To get something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been. Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted November 30, 2012 Report Share Posted November 30, 2012 That's entirely up to you man. I know I personally want to get in shape so that I can do more of the things I want to. What's the point of being in amazing shape if you never do anything with it for fear of causing injury? I say have fun but be smart about it.well thats sort of the issue/question. Can a person in pro wrestling "be smart about it"? Everything that is done causes physical harm. so its sort of...a conundrum i guess. but it sure is fun. Link to comment
Flex Luthor Posted December 2, 2012 Report Share Posted December 2, 2012 Competing at high level in any sport is tough on the body. I think the question isn't should you do it, I think it's, will you regret not doing? If so then go for it 100%. I'll throw some Jim Rohn out there, “We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” "I like you just the way you are" - Mr. Rogers In Br0din's name we gain. Link to comment
Flex Luthor Posted December 2, 2012 Report Share Posted December 2, 2012 Speaking of relationships I have a question of you men. Given that this is a fitness site do you guys care about the fitness of your SO or if your single are you attracted to girls who do not workout? Personally I don't have anything against people with a little more on their frame but it's more about what the person is doing about it. Sounds shallow but I'm not finished. If someone does not respect themselves or their body how can they expect me to? As long as someone is trying to improve themselves I find that attractive even if they aren't at a high level of fitness as long as they are trying. I am terrible at putting my thoughts into words so I hope that made sense I have no problem with people being overweight in any capacity. As long as they're ok with it. The people that complain about being overweight and do nothing about it drive me crazy.As for the first part. Yes I'm attracted to girls who don't workout, you can't always tell what kind of fitness level someone has by looking. Would I enter a relationship with a girl who did nothing for physical activity? No. Working out is one of the biggest parts of my life and I think if my SO wasn't somewhat similar in that way it couldn't end well. My opinion for now, who knows, it could change. "I like you just the way you are" - Mr. Rogers In Br0din's name we gain. Link to comment
Church Posted December 2, 2012 Report Share Posted December 2, 2012 I feel the same. If they're happy with themselves then who am I to judge? But it's the big ones who complain how they "want to get fit but nothing works and it's not my fault. It's a disability."It's a huge pet peeve of mine, and it makes me so mad. "Oh, fear not in a world like this, And thou shalt know erelong, Know how sublime a thing it is, To suffer and be strong." - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow - Battle Log - MyFitnessPal - FitBIt To get something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been. Link to comment
wildross Posted December 2, 2012 Report Share Posted December 2, 2012 Snake, well its obviously something that you can't let go of yet, so philosophical questions aside, you need to do it. You seem to be okay with the risks. wildross - warriors count tons, not reps Warriors don't count reps and sets. They count tons. My psychologist weighs 45 pounds, has an iron soul and sits on the end of a bar Tally Sheet for 2019 Encouragement for older members: Chronologically Blessed Group; Encouragement for newbie lifters: When we were weaker Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted December 2, 2012 Report Share Posted December 2, 2012 Snake, well its obviously something that you can't let go of yet, so philosophical questions aside, you need to do it. You seem to be okay with the risks. wildross - warriors count tons, not repsoh. dont get me wrong. i'm going to do it. I just dont know that it's a good idea. lol. Its a good idea for my soul. but my body? well that is another story. Should be interesting. Link to comment
dshale Posted December 3, 2012 Report Share Posted December 3, 2012 oh. dont get me wrong. i'm going to do it. I just dont know that it's a good idea. lol. Its a good idea for my soul. but my body? well that is another story. Should be interesting.I'm 36, over weight, and taking karate. My body is hating me. With all the bumps and bruises aside, I feel great doing it. I have something to strive for and that has me better focused. Dwarf Monk Challenge thread Link to comment
Woodsrider Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 What's the sense of being in shape to do the things you need to be in shape to do if you don't do them?Wow, not sure if that makes any sense.I got in shape mostly because I'm getting older and I don't want to be hobling around or taking a bunch of medication for stuff I could have prevented. But being in shape has allowed me to do things that I love to do that could potentially seriously hurt me. I race off road motorcycles and being in shape has allowed me to race harder and faster, with a greater danger of injury. Although now, I feel that a recovery would be quicker with my new found fitness levels and understanding of how my diet affects my health. I actually feel safer now racing at higher speeds than I did a couple years ago plugging along through the bush huffing and puffing because I was getting too fatigued.I say go for it and don't worry about scratching up your new body. Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 Snake, if you're going to do it, whether or not its a good idea is irrelevant. Only if you consider taking wrestling off the table does the question of whether or not its a good idea have any bearing on your decision making. If you are a pro-wrestler, then be a pro-wrestler. Take care of yourself as much as possible to mitigate the possiblity of injury, but be who you are. Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
Waldo Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 Speaking of relationships I have a question of you men. Given that this is a fitness site do you guys care about the fitness of your SO or if your single are you attracted to girls who do not workout? Personally I don't have anything against people with a little more on their frame but it's more about what the person is doing about it. Sounds shallow but I'm not finished. If someone does not respect themselves or their body how can they expect me to? As long as someone is trying to improve themselves I find that attractive even if they aren't at a high level of fitness as long as they are trying. I am terrible at putting my thoughts into words so I hope that made sense I dunno. This is a very right now way of looking at it.Many people's level of commitment to fitness will vary over the years from little to none to quite a bit. You have to accept this in yourself and SO, and expect that they do the same.Likewise, over the years you should tend to trend toward doing and enjoying the same things. Set a good example yourself and chances are eventually your SO will get on board, especially if it clear that you enjoy the journey.Obviously there are huge differences with this subject between the single/courtship relationship status and those that are married. currently cutting battle log challenges: 21,20, 19,18,17,16,15,14,13,12,11,10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1 don't panic! Link to comment
Church Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 I say this frequently in various ways on multiple treads, but Waldo is a very wise man. "Oh, fear not in a world like this, And thou shalt know erelong, Know how sublime a thing it is, To suffer and be strong." - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow - Battle Log - MyFitnessPal - FitBIt To get something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been. Link to comment
Waldo Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 I mean, interesting discussion and all from a single guys persective...The vast majority of people that are fit that are older are "born again". The fire that keeps one fit when young and when single in general carries through adulthood (without long breaks) in only a small fraction of people. Most will need to spend some time going down the wrong path.One interesting phenomenon I've noticed, and there are MANY here of this type (including me), is that new dads tend to get on a fitness kick and get in shape. It is rare to see anything but in-shape guys when doing toddler things (at the childrens museum or at the little kids park), and most guys you see with younger children are in prety good shape. I'm not sure if this is a phenomenon of this generation in particular or if it has been common for a long time, but it is very noticable. Sure there is some selection bias, the fat out of shape ones are less likely to do things with the kids, but that can't fully explain it. New dads are a fairly large demographic on NF, we arguably outnumber the "time to lose the baby fat" moms, a long standing powerhouse fitness demographic. currently cutting battle log challenges: 21,20, 19,18,17,16,15,14,13,12,11,10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1 don't panic! Link to comment
Skip66 Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 I'll throw some Jim Rohn out there, “We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.â€Great quote!!! Link to comment
KillerGriller Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 One interesting phenomenon I've noticed, and there are MANY here of this type (including me), is that new dads tend to get on a fitness kick and get in shape. It is rare to see anything but in-shape guys when doing toddler things (at the childrens museum or at the little kids park), and most guys you see with younger children are in prety good shape. I'm not sure if this is a phenomenon of this generation in particular or if it has been common for a long time, but it is very noticable. Sure there is some selection bias, the fat out of shape ones are less likely to do things with the kids, but that can't fully explain it. New dads are a fairly large demographic on NF, we arguably outnumber the "time to lose the baby fat" moms, a long standing powerhouse fitness demographic.New dads also may benefit from already being in shape and taking advantage of the Mom & baby times. I have seen more "fit" dads in recent years, but in my own experience (personally and what I've seen around me) is that as kids get older they require more of your time. Many dads "fall off the wagon" (whether they were on it in the first place or not) simply because they find it hard to get out running or hitting the weights when they barely have 2 seconds to rub together. Often, any "free" time they have is spent recouping sleep, catching up on chores, or trying to coerce their spouse into letting them touch her again When the kids get over that 2-5 hump, things get easier, time frees up, and the opportunity to to pursue fitness is becomes available again. Now, I'm not saying it's impossible to stick with it over this period, but from what I see, this is where most dads have a lot of trouble. Scout: STR: 20.5 | DEX: 13 | STA: 28 | CON: 13.5 | WIS: 8 | CHA: 4http://51feetunder.wordpress.com/ - Running, Rock & Roll, Rock Climbing and PhotographyFitocracy ProfileTwitter Latest Challenge Link to comment
Gainsdalf the Whey Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 New dads also may benefit from already being in shape and taking advantage of the Mom & baby times. I have seen more "fit" dads in recent years, but in my own experience (personally and what I've seen around me) is that as kids get older they require more of your time. Many dads "fall off the wagon" (whether they were on it in the first place or not) simply because they find it hard to get out running or hitting the weights when they barely have 2 seconds to rub together. Often, any "free" time they have is spent recouping sleep, catching up on chores, or trying to coerce their spouse into letting them touch her again When the kids get over that 2-5 hump, things get easier, time frees up, and the opportunity to to pursue fitness is becomes available again. Now, I'm not saying it's impossible to stick with it over this period, but from what I see, this is where most dads have a lot of trouble.I plan on having a dog crate or something in the weight room so I can watch the kid and get my workout in.All kidding aside, I imagine this phenomenon probably has something to do with the instinct to protect the family and home and once you have a kid, there's some kind of hormonal or instinctual switch that is flicked to make one want to be as strong as possible to succeed in this. Massrandir, Barkûn, Swolórin, The Whey Pilgrim 500 / 330 / 625 Challenges: 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 31 32 34 35 36 39 41 42 45 46 47 48 49 Current Challenge "No citizen has a right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable. " ~ Socrates "Friends don't let friends squat high." ~ Chad Wesley Smith "It's a dangerous business, Brodo, squatting to the floor. You step into the rack, and if you don't keep your form, there's no knowing where you might be swept off to." ~ Gainsdalf Link to comment
bgvanbur Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 In my college days I worked out a lot and kept a skinny body. In a two year span I graduated, had a kid, started a full time job and got married. By the end of all this I gradually stopped making working out a priority and slowly put on the weight. My wife says I put on sympathy weight with both her pregnancies, but in truth I was just slowly gaining weight for a good while before, during, and after. I don't see a particularly high number of "fit" dads though.I definitely agree with the "born again" fitness in older people. You need to see the impacts of unhealthy decisions to consciously make regular healthy decisions over long periods of time (as opposed to a "healthy" fad). Level 26, Primal Ultra Trail Scout, Non-Binary Robot Link to comment
Waldo Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 I plan on having a dog crate or something in the weight room so I can watch the kid and get my workout in.These devices are commonly known as playpens. currently cutting battle log challenges: 21,20, 19,18,17,16,15,14,13,12,11,10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1 don't panic! Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 I plan on having a dog crate or something in the weight room so I can watch the kid and get my workout in.These devices are commonly known as playpens.Knowing the difference can prevent trips to your house by social servcies Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
HulmeK Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 I plan on having a dog crate or something in the weight room so I can watch the kid and get my workout in.These devices are commonly known as playpens.Knowing the difference can prevent trips to your house by social servcies Apparently our dog crate was not visually appealing. But the kids love it in there. I swear. Level 3 Ogre Noob AdventurerStr: 10.5 Con: 6.5Dex: 3 WIS: 6.5STA: 4 CHA: 3Weighty Quest!"You are afraid to die, and you’re afraid to live.What a way to exist.†– Neale Donald WalschEpic Quest (55/100) Link to comment
Church Posted December 4, 2012 Report Share Posted December 4, 2012 These devices are commonly known as playpens.Some say "Playpen" some say "baby-cage" lol. There's one lady at my gym, who made her kid part of her workout. She can't go as intense as she would on her own, but she does it with her daughter, running, bodyweight exercises, stretching, etc. now she asks her daughter what she wants to do that day and so forth. Really gets the kid into it and teaches her how to do it properly and really installs a love of it in her daughter. That's one of the most awesome things I've seen in a long time "Oh, fear not in a world like this, And thou shalt know erelong, Know how sublime a thing it is, To suffer and be strong." - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow - Battle Log - MyFitnessPal - FitBIt To get something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been. Link to comment
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