alexis88 Posted June 28, 2015 Report Share Posted June 28, 2015 Im starting to doubt i will ever get 'there' ever reach my fitness goal, my weight goal. Im an alcoholic and the more i worry about the alcohol pissing on my attempt to lose weight, the more i want to drink to numb the fear and struggle. I do well for a couple of weeks or so, then something goes wrong and everything crumbles. Quote Link to comment
Yraen Posted June 28, 2015 Report Share Posted June 28, 2015 I'm sorry to hear that. I know what it's like to struggle with addiction, and worrying about it affecting my health. Wish you all of the best, and good luck. 1 Quote Challenge https://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/topic/96340-yraen-gets-smarter/ Link to comment
alexis88 Posted June 28, 2015 Author Report Share Posted June 28, 2015 I'm sorry to hear that. I know what it's like to struggle with addiction, and worrying about it affecting my health. Wish you all of the best, and good luck. Thank you Yraen x 1 Quote Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted June 28, 2015 Report Share Posted June 28, 2015 Man, addiction sucks. My recommendation is to get the addiction under control before you start looking at fitness. 2 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
Raincloak Posted June 30, 2015 Report Share Posted June 30, 2015 Don't think too hard about the end goal. Just take it one day at a time. Every day, even every hour without a drink is a victory. Keep refraining and line up those hours. If you break the chain, don't panic, just start over. Real life involves a lot of starting over ... and over and over. That's okay. That's being human. Every day when you wake up, you get another chance to be awesome. There are some big tasks you just can't stare at or you'll want to give up. The best thing to do is focus on one step at a time, and have confidence that if you keep taking little steps, eventually you will get there. Be faithful, trust the process, don't give up. It will work if you keep at it long enough. 3 Quote Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future. Hylian Assassin 5'5", 143 lbs. Half-marathon: 3:02It is pitch dark. You are likely to be eaten by a grue. Link to comment
alexis88 Posted June 30, 2015 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2015 Thank you so much for your replies, taking things a day at a time is how i will try this x Quote Link to comment
WarriorAmy Posted June 30, 2015 Report Share Posted June 30, 2015 Don't think too hard about the end goal. Just take it one day at a time. Every day, even every hour without a drink is a victory. Keep refraining and line up those hours. If you break the chain, don't panic, just start over. Real life involves a lot of starting over ... and over and over. That's okay. That's being human. Every day when you wake up, you get another chance to be awesome. There are some big tasks you just can't stare at or you'll want to give up. The best thing to do is focus on one step at a time, and have confidence that if you keep taking little steps, eventually you will get there. Be faithful, trust the process, don't give up. It will work if you keep at it long enough. This sums up my thoughts better than I could have expressed them myself. Also, I'm not sure where you are at, but this is a massive issue to tackle on your own. Don't be afraid to seek out some outside, professional help. Quote WarriorAmy{Insert motivational script here}STR - 4|DEX - 2|STA - 6|CON - 4 |WIS - 6|CHA- 5 Link to comment
alexis88 Posted June 30, 2015 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2015 Thanks Amy, i do have alcohol therapy, but been skipping a few sessions as i dont feel it is working. There are huge waiting lists for more advanced intervention. Met my friend for lunch today, 28 degrees and sitting outside, she had cider, i just had lemon water. Pretty proud, only a small step but a step all the same. 4 Quote Link to comment
MelNaux Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Thanks Amy, i do have alcohol therapy, but been skipping a few sessions as i dont feel it is working. There are huge waiting lists for more advanced intervention. Met my friend for lunch today, 28 degrees and sitting outside, she had cider, i just had lemon water. Pretty proud, only a small step but a step all the same. Ey! Congrats! That is a huge step! Little steps are more like to success that huge hard long steps! You can do it! Quote Mel Naux ~my evil me~Race: Doppelgänger | Class: None[Lvl 0 | STR 0 | DEX 0 | STA 0 | CON 0 | WIS 0 | CHA 0 ] MFPChallenge: 1, 1, Link to comment
Noname123 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Yep, baby steps. Don't focus on the major 'OMG SUCH A HUGE THING TO ACHIEVE' part of everything (alcoholism, fitness, body image)...just one step at a time. Don't compare yourself to others, you're your baseline and you have the power to beat each and every PR you have, you know why? Because if you keep working you'll be the you that had that PR...but with more training. So you'll be faster, stronger, more resilient. That goes with everything. Even if you have a set back you know what, you have the power to pick yourself back up and you showed yourself you have the power to say NO when you need to. You got this man, welcome back! 2 Quote Spaz Ranger BATTLE LOG You can have results or excuses. Not both Link to comment
alexis88 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Thanks guys, all your encouragement helps so much. 1 Quote Link to comment
MelNaux Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Somehow we are here to help each other <3 Quote Mel Naux ~my evil me~Race: Doppelgänger | Class: None[Lvl 0 | STR 0 | DEX 0 | STA 0 | CON 0 | WIS 0 | CHA 0 ] MFPChallenge: 1, 1, Link to comment
BerBer Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 I've noticed that alot of folks here use gratitude journals or build daily gratitude into their challenges. It seems corny but there is alot to be said for focusing on the positive to improve the overall mental state. Maybe give it a try? Always remember you are more then just your addiction. Sent from my SGH-M919 using Tapatalk 3 Quote ~☆~BerBer ~☆~LVL 1 Dwelf AssassinSTR: 0 | DEX : 0 | CON : 4.7 | STA : 3.7 | WIS : 2.80 | CHA : 1 Current ChallengeBattle LogAbout Me Link to comment
alexis88 Posted July 2, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 2, 2015 Again thank you, although i feel like a total loser today because i drank last night and once one gets down, i cant stop i feel so guilty today. Quote Link to comment
BerBer Posted July 2, 2015 Report Share Posted July 2, 2015 But today is a completely new day! Don't let yesterday's slip up ruin today by filling it with negativity.feeling guilty won't change what already happened but it can affect what will happen today, or tomorrow. Remember how you feel,try to forgive yourself, then do better. There is a saying here for slip up/bad days "never two days in a row". You've already said that you can go weeks at a time without a drink and I bet there was a time when you couldn't do that. Quitting anything is hard,take it slow, focus on your WINS. It will happen Quote ~☆~BerBer ~☆~LVL 1 Dwelf AssassinSTR: 0 | DEX : 0 | CON : 4.7 | STA : 3.7 | WIS : 2.80 | CHA : 1 Current ChallengeBattle LogAbout Me Link to comment
alexis88 Posted July 3, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 3, 2015 Thanks BerBer. Last night wasnt good. I almost did something stupid but was on the phone to the Samaritans instead for almost 2 hours. Feeling far away today, slept for 11 hours yet could quite easilly sleep for another 10. Quote Link to comment
BerBer Posted July 3, 2015 Report Share Posted July 3, 2015 Sounds like it was good to me. Almost is good, almost is a step in the right direction. And way to go for seeking help to get you through it! The Samaritans are there for exactly that reason so don't feel bummed about it. Even super hero's have sidekicks Sent from my SGH-M919 using Tapatalk 2 Quote ~☆~BerBer ~☆~LVL 1 Dwelf AssassinSTR: 0 | DEX : 0 | CON : 4.7 | STA : 3.7 | WIS : 2.80 | CHA : 1 Current ChallengeBattle LogAbout Me Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted July 4, 2015 Report Share Posted July 4, 2015 You have no idea how huge it is that you reached out for help instead of reaching for a bottle. That is a huge step on the road to wellness. Keep it up. 4 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
alexis88 Posted July 6, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 6, 2015 Thank you so much guys, welling up here! Not drank since, bad cravings tonight but managed to distract myself. Just have a cup of tea now and catching up on some admin work for my company. Will try to make the gym tomorrow and get those endorphines pumping. 1 Quote Link to comment
BerBer Posted July 6, 2015 Report Share Posted July 6, 2015 Wow great job! Sent from my SGH-M919 using Tapatalk 1 Quote ~☆~BerBer ~☆~LVL 1 Dwelf AssassinSTR: 0 | DEX : 0 | CON : 4.7 | STA : 3.7 | WIS : 2.80 | CHA : 1 Current ChallengeBattle LogAbout Me Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted July 7, 2015 Report Share Posted July 7, 2015 AWESOME! That's another win for you. Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
alexis88 Posted July 7, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 7, 2015 was just about to go to bed and heard my neighbour crying, i only met her last week but she told me some awful things that she has been through the past year. It was 11pm, but i couldnt lie in bed and just listen to her sobbing, so i went round to see if she was ok, and ended up sitting with her for a couple of hours, just talking and ended up laughing a few times too together. As i left she hugged me and said that i helped her a lot. So i feel good and can now go to sleep ! 2 Quote Link to comment
Tanktimus the Encourager Posted July 7, 2015 Report Share Posted July 7, 2015 Good for you. That same instinct that led you to care for that other person is where you can get the strength to care for yourself. 2 Quote Current Challenge "By the Most-Righteous-and-Blessed Beard of Sir Tanktimus the Encourager!" - Jarl Rurik Harrgath Link to comment
alexis88 Posted July 7, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 7, 2015 Good for you. That same instinct that led you to care for that other person is where you can get the strength to care for yourself. Yes this is the hard part, caring for other people is easy! 2 Quote Link to comment
Aena Posted July 7, 2015 Report Share Posted July 7, 2015 Thank you so much guys, welling up here! Not drank since, bad cravings tonight but managed to distract myself. Just have a cup of tea now and catching up on some admin work for my company. Will try to make the gym tomorrow and get those endorphines pumping. That's great! Well done! In future if you begin to get anxious concerning drinking and fitness and it makes you want to drink even more, consider other things to comfort yourself; ie. a long bath. Also, we're all very proud of you. 3 Quote Level 2 Elfin Water Bender :: STR 0 | DEX 0 | STA 0 | CON 3 | WIS 2 | CHA 1 :: "Remember, your mind is the best weapon you have" ~ Farengar Secret-Fire Link to comment
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