Hi! This time, I think I'll do this right.

[Elk]

Hi!

 

I've been a member of this forum for a while. I've even done a few challenges - and I've usually stuck to the goals I make for a couple of weeks. But eventually, I always fade out. I think maybe because I've never joined the community! I tend to get shy on forums, actually.

 

Basically, my goal is that I want to lose fat, and I want to do it in a healthy way. Technically, I'm at a healthy weight, but I know that I can be carrying less of it. For me, though, "in a healthy way" means "without hating myself!" I'm a huge perfectionist, and time and time again it messes me up because I can't take it when I fail to meet my goals. In fact, I become so anxious I can't even work out - even though I like working out!

 

So... yeah. Looking forward to spending more time here!

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

Welcome to the rebellion!  I used to think I was lazy till a counselor pointed out I was a frustrated perfectionist.  I am redefining failure to mean not attempting anything at all rather than not getting everything I want.  For what it's worth, perfection used to mean completion, rather than lack of flaws.  In that way of thinking, perfection can be a process, like maturation, rather than a state of being.

[Elk]

I really like that! It sounds like becoming invested in the journey, not the destination. I find that's what trips me up a lot - instead of day by day, I get frustrated by my current position with reference to my goals.

Thanks! You've given me something to think about. Have you found yourself feeling better since you shifted your this perspective?

[Tanktimus the Encourager]

Oh heck yeah, that made a lot of difference.