Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 I know it sounds corny & dumb, but I've always just focused on being my best self and my love life has always just taken care of itself. By focusing on my own physical and mental health/abilities, when the right person came along in my life randomly, I was in a good place to act on the opportunity.Basically I just try to be the type of person I'd be attracted to.Its not about finding the right person. Its about BEING the right person. Quote Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 I've GOT IT!!! We all start a nerd fitness dating club. We all know we have insecurities and things to workbon. We have similar interests. Its a win win. I think I'm on to something here. Someone get be Steve on the line! Quote Link to comment
WizardTrip Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 but any girl/guy you'd want to be with, will like you regardless of your size. if a girl isn't into you at x weight but she is into you after you've lost xlbs...is that really someone you want to be with?Sadly I can't 100% agree with this. As much as I would love to be able to say I wouldn't want to be with her, I can't. I would be a hypocrite at that point. I have noticed how picky I can be, and know that I am pickier than I really should be, but I've dated the girl that I wasn't attracted to because she was soooo great in every other aspect....twice! It just didn't work for me...both times. I don't blame the girls that would date me if only I were thinner, more muscular, in better shape, took better care of myself, etc; because I want the same in the other direction (granted, I do prefer a curvier girl.....ass and legs FTW!!!). It would also be a lie to say that I am doing this (losing weight, better shape, etc) just for me....no, I want better for my dating life. I want to get that girl that may be having the same picky thoughts that I have...once I reach my goal, I'll be ok with that. That all may sound a little superficial, and honestly, it kinda is....but it is a great side effect of what I'm trying to accomplish. Quote Level 6 Wizard of Beer Warrior STR 21.25 | DEX 5.75 | STA 7.75 | CON 3.50 | WIS 9.50 | CHA 3.25 Twitter | Epic Trip | Current Challenge Previous Challenges: 1 2 3 4 5 *the warrior formerly known as icedtrip and former dothraki god of thunder furyan* Link to comment
ETFnerd Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 @icedtrip i think it took a lot of courage to post what you did... golf clap for being real... u b u and f*** whoever doesn't like it...if I were a chick, I would date you... if you were a little thinner... hair was thicker... you know, had a NFL contract... and access to a G5 so that we could jet to our homes around the world... Quote i don't care what u think of me. unless u think i'm awesome. in which case u're right. Intro - Workout Log - ABS Log - Fitness Philosophy - Accountability - NERDEE - Weight Maintenance Link to comment
Durandal Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 @icedtrip i think it took a lot of courage to post what you did... golf clap for being real... u b u and f*** whoever doesn't like it...if I were a chick, I would date you... if you were a little thinner... hair was thicker... you know, had a NFL contract... and access to a G5 so that we could jet to our homes around the world... I'm a little sad that ETFnerd's hypothetical chick alter-ego wouldn't want to date me I think everyone makes some great points...I guess to sum things up, life is full of surprises so I should be ready for whatever happens. It's hard to prepare for everything when anything's possible, so I'll just go with what Daffy said and continue leveling up, since the qualities we see in ourselves are the qualities we look for in others and all that junk. Quote Link to comment
Zorch Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 but any girl/guy you'd want to be with, will like you regardless of your size. if a girl isn't into you at x weight but she is into you after you've lost xlbs...is that really someone you want to be with? of course, there are limits to these things and attraction does play a role so i won't be so blind to say it's an all or nothing sort of thing...just some thoughts I partially disagree - mainly because appearances/attraction play a such huge role in the initial encounter between two people. Once you get to know someone, appearances absolutely become less important(at best, they're one of many, many factors at that point), but when you meet a stranger, you generally don't get the chance to learn their life story - you basically have appearances and whatever you can learn an anywhere between a few seconds to a few minutes to go by. EVERYONE uses some kind of initial screening process that includes appearances when meeting someone for the first time, whether we want to admit it or not. It's something that's basically hard-coded into our minds. Quote "Restlessness is discontent - and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man-and I will show you a failure." -Thomas Edison Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Sadly I can't 100% agree with this. As much as I would love to be able to say I wouldn't want to be with her, I can't. I would be a hypocrite at that point. I have noticed how picky I can be, and know that I am pickier than I really should be, but I've dated the girl that I wasn't attracted to because she was soooo great in every other aspect....twice! It just didn't work for me...both times. I don't blame the girls that would date me if only I were thinner, more muscular, in better shape, took better care of myself, etc; because I want the same in the other direction (granted, I do prefer a curvier girl.....ass and legs FTW!!!). It would also be a lie to say that I am doing this (losing weight, better shape, etc) just for me....no, I want better for my dating life. I want to get that girl that may be having the same picky thoughts that I have...once I reach my goal, I'll be ok with that. That all may sound a little superficial, and honestly, it kinda is....but it is a great side effect of what I'm trying to accomplish.I feel the same. I've tried the relationship without physical attraction...my best girl pal. Note BEST FRIEND and we tried dating and I just couldn't do it long. I was deluding myself into thinking I was attracted to her. She is working on getting healthy but still she just wasn't what i was attracted to phsyically. just..the physical attraction isn't there at all...and not just because she is out of shape but...anyway the point is I have a standard. i'm working at actively being in better shape and trying to be a better me in general and I can't date someone who isn't at least on some path to doing so. And not just on the path but looking a way I'm attracted to. I don't think this is shallow. Everyone wants to be attracted to their significant other. Quote Link to comment
Daffy Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 I've GOT IT!!! We all start a nerd fitness dating club. We all know we have insecurities and things to workbon. We have similar interests. Its a win win. I think I'm on to something here. Someone get be Steve on the line!Ha! Ya know, from what I've seen on some walls of Fitocracy, it looks like they're a little bit of a dating club already. Quote Link to comment
bigm141414 Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Well Steve did mention on one of the blogs that some NFers got together. Ha! Ya know, from what I've seen on some walls of Fitocracy, it looks like they're a little bit of a dating club already.Bow-chicka-bow-wow Quote "Pull the bar like you're ripping the head off a god-damned lion" - Donny Shankle Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Ha! Ya know, from what I've seen on some walls of Fitocracy, it looks like they're a little bit of a dating club already.Well let's make this happen! Still though...doesn't change the fact that I have no game. At all. But maybe that is a good thing? *shrug*Well Steve did mention on one of the blogs that some NFers got together. Bow-chicka-bow-wow*grows mustache and does porno de-robing dance* Quote Link to comment
bigm141414 Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Well let's make this happen! Still though...doesn't change the fact that I have no game. At all. But maybe that is a good thing? *shrug*Sure fire way to talk to a girl *See girl at a club/bar/picnic/ etc*You: Hey, havin a good night/time/lunch?Her: Yes/no (whatever)You: My name is (insert name). Good to meet ya. Can I buy you a drink/dance/slice of roast beef? Her: Thanks. My name is blah blah blah You: Nice to meet ya. You hear with friends etc etc etc. Conversation starts. Works 8 out of 10 times. Baby steps Bruce, baby steps. Quote "Pull the bar like you're ripping the head off a god-damned lion" - Donny Shankle Link to comment
Atalan Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 It does take confidence to make that work. So, fake confidence until you ARE confident. Quote Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Sure fire way to talk to a girl *See girl at a club/bar/picnic/ etc*You: Hey, havin a good night/time/lunch?Her: Yes/no (whatever)You: My name is (insert name). Good to meet ya. Can I buy you a drink/dance/slice of roast beef? Her: Thanks. My name is blah blah blah You: Nice to meet ya. You hear with friends etc etc etc. Conversation starts. Works 8 out of 10 times. Baby steps Bruce, baby steps.it actually isn't the approach that is hard for me. and it's not like i don't have confidence. I know I'm a good looking man (i only say this because i hear it a lot and get flirted with) and i know i'm a cool dude. It's just i sort of have a standard. and the women whom i am typically attracted to just don't seem to be into me. so meh. And honestly i have this super limited social circle that makes it impossible to be introduced to someone a friend knows and i've done the meeting strangers thing. it just doesn't work for me.Over all i'm cool. Quote Link to comment
aj_rock Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Don't introduce dating to NF. Please. Its ruined other fitness sites. Quote Why must I put a name on the foods I choose to eat and how I choose to eat them? Rather than tell people that I eat according to someone else's arbitrary rules, I'd rather just tell them, I eat healthy. And no, my diet does not have a name.My daily battle log! Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Don't introduce dating to NF. Please. Its ruined other fitness sites. I can actually totally see how it would. Probably not a good idea. I was just being silly. Unless of course all the dudes and ladies wear DeadMau5e heads. then it would be the best idea ever. Quote Link to comment
aj_rock Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Sexy deadmau5 cosplay? I'm down.The only thing you're allowed to wear is the large head. You can even dance like he does and the women just position themselves accordingly. Quote Why must I put a name on the foods I choose to eat and how I choose to eat them? Rather than tell people that I eat according to someone else's arbitrary rules, I'd rather just tell them, I eat healthy. And no, my diet does not have a name.My daily battle log! Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 Sexy deadmau5 cosplay? I'm down.The only thing you're allowed to wear is the large head. You can even dance like he does and the women just position themselves accordingly.so a fitness related dating site where we all wear those heads and dance...with nothing else on (as our profile photos i guess?)....PERFECT! Quote Link to comment
bigm141414 Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 so a fitness related dating site where we all wear those heads and dance...with nothing else on (as our profile photos i guess?)....PERFECT!O.o Quote "Pull the bar like you're ripping the head off a god-damned lion" - Donny Shankle Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted February 1, 2012 Report Share Posted February 1, 2012 O.oExcept not really. The reason you ask? See OP. None of us would be comfortable so there would be no one on there. Quote Link to comment
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