CalvinHobbes Posted March 24, 2012 Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 Your ex invites you to their wedding...Suggestions on proper etiquette? Posting the invitation on Facebook and laughing hysterically was nixed already Quote Link to comment
Mb82 Posted March 24, 2012 Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 Go, get plastered, then tell embarrassing stories about your ex in bed. They don't even have to be true. Or just decline it, walk away and be proud your not stooping low. Quote Link to comment
CalvinHobbes Posted March 24, 2012 Author Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 I like it! Quote Link to comment
mandy75 Posted March 24, 2012 Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 Send the soon to be wife a condolences letter??..lol Quote 1 Rep Max Deadlift-180lbs1 Rep Max Clean and Jerk-90lbs1 Rep Max Push Press-70lbs1 Rep Max Back Squat-135lbs1 Rep Strict Press-65lbsFitocracy2 weeks till Hawaii Link to comment
oystergirl Posted March 24, 2012 Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 Sending you a big hug and hoping you realize that everything happens for a reason...both breaking up and the idiocy of sending you an invitation.You could go and have some fun, or simply decline. Not sure, cause you didn't say if you are even still close, but if you are not, do you feel the invitation was sent to simply piss you off or let you know he is fine? I think that how you are and how you feel is the most important thing here. Quote The real world is bizarre enough for me....Blue Oyster Cult! Oystergirl: Bad Assed Lightcaster (aka wizard!) STR: 2 | DEX: 3 | CON: 3 | STA: 2 | WIS: 4 | CHA: 5 Oystergirl's Bad Ass Lightcaster Wicked Rocking Adventure Challenge! Come visit my wicked rocking Nerd Fitness blog! Link to comment
Morrigainz Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Um, yeah....AWKWARD. I go with the polite decline option, if posting it on Facebook is out already. Quote Level ? Half-Dwarf/Half-Amazon Warrior STR:21.25 STA:15 DEX: 10.95 CON: 14 WIS:15.5 CHA:17 SWOLE BUCKS: 1 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Link to comment
GreenEyesBright Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Screw etiquette! If it'll hurt to watch him marry another person, skip it. Especially if you know her personally. Send a nice card wishing them the best of luck and regret to inform the couple you are unable to attend as you already have plans for the day. Skip the gift. Spend the money on you at a spa day and gloat happily about it on facebook. Thats just me talking though. Sent from my MB860 using Tapatalk Quote Wake Your Dreams... Link to comment
Guest Gemeaux Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I find it weird to invite an ex . I don't think he is 100 % over you , he just wants to say " haha ! " I world say no . Or bring a hot date Quote Link to comment
Rivanariko Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I actually invited an ex to my wedding... But understand, he was a guy I dated in high school. We were friends before we dated, and after a few months of angry and a few more months of awkward, we worked it out and he is actually one of my closest friends now. Not inviting him would have felt way weirder than inviting him. He came, he had a great time. There are no hard feelings between us anymore. If that's not the case for you, and I'm guessing it's not, I'd just send back your RSVP card with "regrets" and be done with it. Quote "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that leads to total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." -Frank Herbert, Dune Link to comment
ETFnerd Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 i would send the rsvp card with this picture... 'cause i'm classy like that yo... Quote i don't care what u think of me. unless u think i'm awesome. in which case u're right. Intro - Workout Log - ABS Log - Fitness Philosophy - Accountability - NERDEE - Weight Maintenance Link to comment
Silentplanet Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Seems a little mean or selfish really =P I'd just tell them to go jump... in the nicest way possible! Quote Link to comment
Zorch Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 It depends on the situation, really. I have an ex who I'm not really "close" with, but whom I still talk occasionally, and we usually send each other our regards on birthdays/holidays - really nice person, but the relationship just didn't work out for a variety of reasons. It sounds like this situation is a bit different. If you feel it'd be awkward to attend, I'd go with others' suggestion of finding a reason to be elsewhere on that day, and politely declining the invitation. Quote "Restlessness is discontent - and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man-and I will show you a failure." -Thomas Edison Link to comment
Gainsdalf the Whey Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 It really depends in what your current relationship is and if you are close at all, the ex part doesn't have to come into it. The ex that i had the longest relationship with (8 months) other than my wife was actually a bridesmaid in our wedding because she is one of our good friends. Quote Massrandir, Barkûn, Swolórin, The Whey Pilgrim 500 / 330 / 625 Challenges: 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 31 32 34 35 36 39 41 42 45 46 47 48 49 Current Challenge "No citizen has a right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable. " ~ Socrates "Friends don't let friends squat high." ~ Chad Wesley Smith "It's a dangerous business, Brodo, squatting to the floor. You step into the rack, and if you don't keep your form, there's no knowing where you might be swept off to." ~ Gainsdalf Link to comment
StrengthIsBeauty Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Eeeeekkk..... (Was this a race to your ex?) Quote Run Loba, Run Link to comment
Deanna Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 It really depends in what your current relationship is and if you are close at all, the ex part doesn't have to come into it. The ex that i had the longest relationship with (8 months) other than my wife was actually a bridesmaid in our wedding because she is one of our good friends.Exactly my thoughts. Some of my ex's are some of my best friends. There was obviously some quality in them that the relationship started with so why does that have to end when the love part goes away?? Not all mind you. If it was a bad breakup then I'd just be an adult about it, wish them all the best and not attend. Quote In training to be awesome! Link to comment
CalvinHobbes Posted March 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Ok background info:We were together about a year, end of high school through first year of college. I found out he had been cheating on me almost every weekend with a number of different girls....yeah I wasn't sticking around. I didn't go as crazy on him as others--it was more of a "yeah, goodbye." He was much more upset than I was and would frequently text/call/etc. and I just ignored him. That summer I spontaneously studied abroad and met my "rebound" who I've been with for almost four years now, and we've discussed marriage but we're currently long distance and it's just not the right time for either of us. Edit: We weren't always long distance, he was actually a student studying abroad in the same program as me, so we were together about 3 years before he moved across the country but we decided to stay together. About two years ago I ran into him and he said he was single and not ready to be "tied down to any dumb girls" and dating me was the "biggest mistake." I just laughed and said something like "good to see you." Quote Link to comment
Morrigainz Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Wow. So now he's getting married. GOOD PLAN BRO.I like the idea of skipping the gift (for sure!!!!) and spending the money on yourself Seriously...why would he even invite you? Definitely sounds like he is trying to gloat or something. Ridic. What an ass. Quote Level ? Half-Dwarf/Half-Amazon Warrior STR:21.25 STA:15 DEX: 10.95 CON: 14 WIS:15.5 CHA:17 SWOLE BUCKS: 1 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Link to comment
So Late So Soon Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Sounds like a bro Quote Well I guess it's only life, it's only natural We all spend a little while going down the rabbit hole Link to comment
SquireOfPitt Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 CalvinHobbes,This depends on a couple of things. Are you still friends with this ex? Do you at least semi-regularly communicate or socialize? Have you met the soon to be spouse and are on good terms with them? If so then go and have fun as you would at any friends wedding.However it does not sound like this is the case and I would respectfully decline.Sincerely,Squire Of Pitt Quote Link to comment
mandy75 Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 um yeah, he's ass, be glad he's an Ex, and I would till want to send the "dumb girl" your condolence Quote 1 Rep Max Deadlift-180lbs1 Rep Max Clean and Jerk-90lbs1 Rep Max Push Press-70lbs1 Rep Max Back Squat-135lbs1 Rep Strict Press-65lbsFitocracy2 weeks till Hawaii Link to comment
This is Seth Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I think everyone is missing the big questions here...What's on the menu and is there an open bar?I went to an ex's wedding, it was a very nice ceremony and it caused her mother to damn near have a heart attack to see me there. Worth it, she never liked me.. Quote You ever see those guys who look like they totally used to be in shape? I'm working to get back to that... Link to comment
bigm141414 Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 What's on the menu and is there an open bar?As always seth goes straight to the heart of the matter. From what you describe CH I say ignore it completely. It doesn't seem to be worth your time. Now, for what I would really do, because I am a childish a-hole, would be to leaving a bag of flaming poo on his doorstep, ring the bell, and run away. Quote "Pull the bar like you're ripping the head off a god-damned lion" - Donny Shankle Link to comment
Mb82 Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I would just walk away to be honest. Never been invited to ex girlfriends weddings. I have one that is not married yet that maybe she would but I doubt it and I would not go.Kinda funny slightly off-topic thing with that ex girlfriend though. Last year about this time she called me out of the blue( I don't have her number anymore, apparently she still has mine). She told me she was 7 months pregnant. The funny part was immediately the first thing though my head was when was the last time she and I had wellllll... yeah that was 4 years ago. I still had the thought of oh crap is it mine for a moment. She was not happy with my response of not being ecstatic for her. Quote Link to comment
oystergirl Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 LOL come to think of it...and realize I was very young when I got married and dated my husband for like 5 years all through the early 80's in college and then long distance...at least 2 of the girls who came for his side were ex-girlfriends and 3 I had "dated"....but it was no big deal.He sounds like a total ass and you are lucky to be done with him...go with a hot guy and have a BLAST! or say F-it.... Quote The real world is bizarre enough for me....Blue Oyster Cult! Oystergirl: Bad Assed Lightcaster (aka wizard!) STR: 2 | DEX: 3 | CON: 3 | STA: 2 | WIS: 4 | CHA: 5 Oystergirl's Bad Ass Lightcaster Wicked Rocking Adventure Challenge! Come visit my wicked rocking Nerd Fitness blog! Link to comment
UncleTone Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 My wife and I were invited to my ex's wedding. She and my best friend thought it prudent to start dating a few months after we broke up and then invited me to the wedding a few years later. When we got it in the mail I told my wife I would send the RSVP with a polite decline, but she knows better lol. In the end, we never replied, but if I had my way a response would have been sent explaining exactly why I would not be coming. Yes, sometimes I am a child that holds grudges. And it was a cash bar. Quote Dwarf Ranger STR 3 // DEX 2 // STA 2 // CON 4 // WIS 2 // CHA 2"It's Simple, so says the Captain;Face Forward,Move Slow,Forge Ahead.Onward! Onward! Onward!" Link to comment
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