fyretooth Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I mean, lurking is a great skill to have as an assassin, <wink wink> but it's kind of bothering me. I've gotten some great advice (thanks Church and Dillpedo) and some wonderful praise (fire.eagle, Happienumber, and Church, you guys are all awesome), and I even feel like I've let them down if I miss a workout.But I can't seem to return any of their favors. The idea of posting on someone's topic seems awkward - rude, even - as if I don't know them enough to be commenting on their life. Yet they have graciously done the same for me.Any suggestions on fixing this problem?EDIT: I am reminded of the mentality of parkour when I think about this. I just need to blast through it with the most efficiency and least pain, but I'm not sure how to go about it. [TABLE=width: 425, align: left] [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Gnome Assassin STR 2 | DEX 3 | STA 3 | CON 2 | WIS 3 | CHA 2 Facebook Here I stand. I can do no other. God help me. [/TABLE] Link to comment
Evicious Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Valid point about not knowing someone well enough to comment on their life - to a degree. Think of it like when a stranger strikes up a conversation with you, say, in line at that coffee shop: all you have to talk about it what they're talking about. So if someone is blogging about how awesome their workout went, a polite "Great to hear!" is perfectly appropriate; conversely, if things didn't go quite the way they planned, "Hang in there, dude, you got this," is just as acceptable. Try just leaving those kinds of little comments at first, and as time goes on, I think you'll find yourself becoming more conversational with the people who have been helping you. Evicious, Khajjit Ranger STR 7 | DEX 13 | STA 3 | CON 6 | WIS 16 | CHA 4 Current 4WC: Evicious: The Unburdening II + Blitz Week! Fitocracy! I Play To Win! Keep up the momentum! Link to comment
Morrigainz Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Valid point about not knowing someone well enough to comment on their life - to a degree. Think of it like when a stranger strikes up a conversation with you, say, in line at that coffee shop: all you have to talk about it what they're talking about. So if someone is blogging about how awesome their workout went, a polite "Great to hear!" is perfectly appropriate; conversely, if things didn't go quite the way they planned, "Hang in there, dude, you got this," is just as acceptable. Try just leaving those kinds of little comments at first, and as time goes on, I think you'll find yourself becoming more conversational with the people who have been helping you.This.Also don't be afraid! Nerds unite! Level ? Half-Dwarf/Half-Amazon Warrior STR:21.25 STA:15 DEX: 10.95 CON: 14 WIS:15.5 CHA:17 SWOLE BUCKS: 1 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Link to comment
fyretooth Posted July 6, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Excellent, excellent point, Evicious. I'll get right on that.Indeed, MirGSS! This place is awesome, because everybody is at least a little bit like-minded. [TABLE=width: 425, align: left] [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Gnome Assassin STR 2 | DEX 3 | STA 3 | CON 2 | WIS 3 | CHA 2 Facebook Here I stand. I can do no other. God help me. [/TABLE] Link to comment
Abbey Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I find it easier to comment on posts where I have something in common with the OP.. for instance, finding it awkward to post on other topics because you feel you don't know them xD. I find, in general, people like having people comment on their progress/general topics, no matter who it is. Hey, they joined a community, that's what they're there for ^^. [table=width: 350, align: center] Abbey's Adventure Battle Log || Adventure Record Level 1 475 / 1535 exp Losing weight, getting fit and finding happiness... ...one quest at a time [/table] Link to comment
bigm141414 Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Step 1) Go to my challenge thread.Step 2) Post funny pictureStep 3) ???Step 4) Profit! Funny pictures are always welcome. No need to by shy, you can only get to know community members through interactions with them. We're not all that intimidating. "Pull the bar like you're ripping the head off a god-damned lion" - Donny Shankle Link to comment
Ryan Sannar Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I'm giving you permission to post on my thread. Link to comment
faerywethyr Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I totally feel the same way all the time! I am a serious lurker here on Nerd Fitness but I struggle to post, sigh I would think I could leave my introvertedness behind on the interwebs. [TABLE=width: 500] [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] DragonBorne Adventurer STR 4.5 DEX 4 STA 4.5 CON 5.25 WIS 8 CHA 3 "Time for some thrilling heroics." Jayne Cobb Current Challenge My Fitness Pal [/TABLE] Link to comment
Horsedog Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I find it easier to comment on posts where I have something in common with the OP.. for instance, finding it awkward to post on other topics because you feel you don't know them xD. I find, in general, people like having people comment on their progress/general topics, no matter who it is. Hey, they joined a community, that's what they're there for ^^.I definitely agree with this. I joined because I liked the vibe I got from Steve's blog, and this community has only re-inforced (like, 100 times over) that feeling! Maybe not everyone who posts here is looking to get feedback and whatnot, but I think most are...like Abby says, that's what a community is Emerge from the gloom, assassin! What you do, and what you don't do, matters. Link to comment
Morrigainz Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Post ALL the things! Level ? Half-Dwarf/Half-Amazon Warrior STR:21.25 STA:15 DEX: 10.95 CON: 14 WIS:15.5 CHA:17 SWOLE BUCKS: 1 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Link to comment
Horsedog Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Post ALL the things! BAHAHA! What you do, and what you don't do, matters. Link to comment
Blueberries Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Step 1) Go to my challenge thread.Step 2) Post funny pictureStep 3) ???Step 4) Profit! Funny pictures are always welcome. No need to by shy, you can only get to know community members through interactions with them. We're not all that intimidating.I believe the gauntlet has been thrown down. Workout Log | Current Challenge: Blueberries and the Quest for 101 Ways to Eat Eggs Last Challenge: Blueberries 102 Link to comment
Morrigainz Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Yeah and BigM is serious with his gauntlets..... Level ? Half-Dwarf/Half-Amazon Warrior STR:21.25 STA:15 DEX: 10.95 CON: 14 WIS:15.5 CHA:17 SWOLE BUCKS: 1 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Link to comment
fire.eagle Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Post ALL the things! Yep, that's basically what I was going to say. I tend to lurk more, but random comments can still contribute to the conversation and it sets you up to post more. This is even more so in the challenge threads. Reading over someone's thread and posting a "Hey, great job!" might look pretty pointless when you type it, but the person on the other end gets to see the encouragement then also know that there are people actually reading their log who care enough to post, which lends some accountability to it as well. (I mean, you can't disappoint the random strangers on the internet, right?)I get what you mean by saying it feels rude; I'm a massive introvert and will tend to avoid any chance of annoying someone. But, look at it this way: you're on a public forum. If people didn't want interaction, they wouldn't be here. Or, at least, I haven't met any jerks here. They'll at least nicely tell you to GTFO their thread. ^Perfect example of me rambling for a post to be active in a thread. [table=width: 600] [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] fire.eagle Elf Assassin STR: 6 DEX: 5.5 STA: 4.75 CON: 5 WIS: 3.5 CHA: 3.75 Assassin Wannabe | Be Prepared All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. [/table] Link to comment
Mad Rocker Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I find it difficult to post loads too, as I'm not in a position where I can really offer advice since many people here are far more knowledgeable/experienced, but at the same time I don't have too many questions to ask either. This doesn't really apply to challenge threads though. Encouragement is easy enough. http://jackblog.orgJack Blog | The Blog of Jack Link to comment
Skwuats911 Posted July 6, 2012 Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 I find it difficult to post loads too, as I'm not in a position where I can really offer advice since many people here are far more knowledgeable/experienced, but at the same time I don't have too many questions to ask either. This! But hopefully that starts to change since I've made it a goal to just try and be more social and not stuck in my introvert ways. Link to comment
fyretooth Posted July 6, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 6, 2012 Wow! I certainly drew many people onto the discussion. How exciting!Thanks all, for your great input. Someday soon, you might see me sneaking into one of your threads! Who knows? [TABLE=width: 425, align: left] [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Gnome Assassin STR 2 | DEX 3 | STA 3 | CON 2 | WIS 3 | CHA 2 Facebook Here I stand. I can do no other. God help me. [/TABLE] Link to comment
Raincloak Posted July 7, 2012 Report Share Posted July 7, 2012 Don't think too highly of overposting. Your time is better spent on other things, really. Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future. Hylian Assassin 5'5", 143 lbs. Half-marathon: 3:02It is pitch dark. You are likely to be eaten by a grue. Link to comment
fire.eagle Posted July 7, 2012 Report Share Posted July 7, 2012 Sure, but if you're lurking anyways, may as well post while you're here. [table=width: 600] [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] fire.eagle Elf Assassin STR: 6 DEX: 5.5 STA: 4.75 CON: 5 WIS: 3.5 CHA: 3.75 Assassin Wannabe | Be Prepared All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. [/table] Link to comment
zendup Posted July 7, 2012 Report Share Posted July 7, 2012 Don't worry about it! People wouldn't post in forums if they didn't want other people to respond. My current issue is that I seem to be a "thread killer". There are a lot of threads that seem to never see the light of day again after I leave a comment. I'm sorry if I kill this one. lol Work it HARDER, Make it BETTER Do it FASTER, Makes us STRONGER [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Link to comment
surana16 Posted July 7, 2012 Report Share Posted July 7, 2012 Gah I'm terrible at lurking on forums too! Definitely gonna start leaving just comments here and there, glad I'm not the only one Human Ranger 2.5 STR | 2 DEX | 1.5 STA | 1.5 CON | 4 WIS | 3.5 CHA Link to comment
--- Posted July 7, 2012 Report Share Posted July 7, 2012 Don't worry about it! People wouldn't post in forums if they didn't want other people to respond. My current issue is that I seem to be a "thread killer". There are a lot of threads that seem to never see the light of day again after I leave a comment. I'm sorry if I kill this one. lolWelp, Zendup's posted. Guess that means it's time for me to leave this thread.To be serious, though, there's a lot of good comments that people have left so far. I want to especially reiterate fire.eagle's point. When I see people leave a comment on my topic, even if it's just a quick "good to hear!", I find it delightful. Now, don't do what I did in another forum and feel obligated to read every single thread, because then that's just jumping off into the other pitfall and will suck away all your free time--especially in a forum this large.There's my input. *drops 2 cents into the jar* Link to comment
Mad Rocker Posted July 7, 2012 Report Share Posted July 7, 2012 Now, don't do what I did in another forum and feel obligated to read every single thread, because then that's just jumping off into the other pitfall and will suck away all your free time--especially in a forum this large.Times like these that you feel sorry for the mods, eh? I mod a guitar forum and manage to skim most of the posts there every day, but there are far fewer active members than there are here. http://jackblog.orgJack Blog | The Blog of Jack Link to comment
Piccolojones Posted July 9, 2012 Report Share Posted July 9, 2012 I get what you mean by saying it feels rude; I'm a massive introvert and will tend to avoid any chance of annoying someone. But, look at it this way: you're on a public forum. If people didn't want interaction, they wouldn't be here. Or, at least, I haven't met any jerks here. They'll at least nicely tell you to GTFO their thread. ^^^ This. The way I look at it is that people are looking for some sort feedback, affirmation, correction, or other response. I'd venture a guess that many of us are lacking this sort of interaction with our friends IRL (my nerd friends aren't too much help with fitness talk), which is why we talk about it here.And since I, too, understand the awkwardness of speaking into another's life, I try to end my posts/blogs with some sort of question or call to action. Not only am I able to learn or challenge others, but the awkwardness level drops if I'm asking for responses, right? Piccolojones, a level 2 Half-Elven Warrior STR- 5.25 | DEX- 2 | STA- 1 | CON- 2.75 | WIS- 4.75 | CHA 7 Join the HEROES vs. Villains PVP!! FOR NARNIA AND FOR ASLAN! Current ChallengePast Challenges: The Return Benching Bodyweight for 5 Reps: Aug 8: 110/143 lbs | Aug 13: 115/140 | Aug 20: 120/142 | Sep 8: 135/144 | Oct 14: 140/143 | Oct 23: 145/143!!! 101.3%101.3% Link to comment
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