AlterStephen Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 So there's this girl at work who has caught my eye (we've both only worked there for a couple weeks). The other day while eating lunch, she came over and sat next to me (even though we had only briefly met once a few days prior) and we had a pretty cool conversation. I'm hoping to ask her out, but I'm not exactly good at this, haha.So, girls, what do you think? I'm thinking of taking her on a picnic, an idea which my sister seems to be emphatically in support of. Any other ideas? "First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win." —Mahatma Ghandi Link to comment
AngelaTheGeek Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Well, I would start with a lunch date outside of work, if possible. Although, she's more-than-likely interested, since she made the move to sit next to you. The picnic idea is super cute. If you can pull it off, go for it! 90+ Masters Weightlifter Current Lift PRs Snatch: 93kg/205lb // Clean and Jerk: 113kg/248lb // Back Squat: 170kg/375lb Spoiler 2016 USAW Senior Nationals - 6th place 2015 USAW American Open - 8th place 2015 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place 2014 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place 2013 USAW Senior Nationals - 9th place Instagram - MyFitnessPal Link to comment
Laney Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Group date first, that way if it gets weird you aren't stuck with her. Plus it's less awkward if you run out of things to talk about Level 3 Time Lord AdventurerChallenge Thread| | Cosplay Blog | | Link to comment
Kyla Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Drinks with some other coworkers after hours, maybe? [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Level 1 Half-Elf Adventurer Str: 1 ~ Dex: 3 ~ Sta: 2 ~ Con: 2 ~ Wis: 4 ~ Cha: 3 My first adventure!! Link to comment
rtalencar Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Coffee or a lunch date, though I'm a dude (and the first date I asked my now-wife on was an overnight trip to PA...so go figure) IDDQD [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Current Challenge Race: MALIETOA Class: WARRIOR STR: 4 | DEX: 1 | STA: 1 | CON: 3 | WIS: 2 | CHA: 4 Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Simple: You do this.The next time you are talking and no one is around (so it isn't awkward) You smile. Be confident. Look her in the eye (not creepy like) and say, "I want to take you out for a date." Then let her respond. Simple. No pick up lines. no flash. just be brief and confident and it will either happen or it won't. Don't think too much about it. don't wait around to be sure. Just do it. Link to comment
leadchipmunk Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Simple: You do this.The next time you are talking and no one is around (so it isn't awkward) You smile. Be confident. Look her in the eye (not creepy like) and say, "I want to take you out for a date." Then let her respond. Simple. No pick up lines. no flash. just be brief and confident and it will either happen or it won't. Don't think too much about it. don't wait around to be sure. Just do it.This is so true I will not only second it, but I shall third it too.Do not forget the smile Level 1 Woodwose STR 5 | DEX 2 | STA 1 | CON 2 | WIS 5 | CHA 4 WAR 0 | RNG 0 | SCT 0 | ASN 0 | MON 0 | DRU 0 | ADV 1 Current Challenge: Specialization is for Insects Previous Chapters: 1 Link to comment
Arashi Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Picnic idea is nice!!! A lunch date outside work, like Angela said, sounds good too. Good luck! Link to comment
Thilde Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Simple: You do this.The next time you are talking and no one is around (so it isn't awkward) You smile. Be confident. Look her in the eye (not creepy like) and say, "I want to take you out for a date." Then let her respond. Simple. No pick up lines. no flash. just be brief and confident and it will either happen or it won't. Don't think too much about it. don't wait around to be sure. Just do it.I agree with leadchipmunk...Snake has given such epic advice that I shall fourth and fifth his post. Best advice on asking someone out, period.And as leadchipmunk says, don't forget the smile. Good luck! Link to comment
smazzon1 Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 That idea is so cute. A guy I went out with last year did a picnic for our first date and it was a lot of fun. And, as the people above me said, be confident "If you die, you die. A man must constantly exceed his level." - Bruce Lee Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 oh yeah and as an additive, wait for her to answer if she wants to go with you. then YOU DECIDE the what and where. do something creative. no movies on the first date. go eat at some point......oh and there is sort of a trick to making someone feel like they've spent more time with you than they really have. 1st you go to get dinner. something light. not a big giant meal.2nd you then drive somewhere for desert. like ice cream. eat the ice cream while going for a walk.3rd then you go somewhere else (if you are 21 and older go for drinks). this makes you both feel as if you've spent more time together than you actually have. its good for both of you. multiple shared experiences in a short amount of time. make sure to have a good conversation with open ended questions. not yes/no answerable quesitons.things like : What's your favorite holiday? why is it your favorite holiday. etc. Link to comment
Maj. Bloodnok Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 THIS.And one other thing: LISTEN. Don't just wait for her to stop talking. (I've made that mistake many times.) "If you get into trouble, you can always eat something, blow something up, or throw penguins." - Jim Henson Link to comment
Valiance Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Snake is a master. Do as he has said, because frankly I haven't got any better suggestions... because THERE AREN'T ANY!!!! [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC]Valiance, Level 1 Aasimar Warrior [table=width: 275, class: outer_border, align: center] STR: 2 DEX: 3 STA: 2 [tr] CON: 2 WIS: 3 CHA: 3 [/table] Chapter One: Valiance's Journey Begins! Link to comment
concretecavewoman Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Yes, ask her, like Snake says. And on a related note:Stop Hanging Out With Women and Start Dating Them My Current Challenge Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 THIS.And one other thing: LISTEN. Don't just wait for her to stop talking. (I've made that mistake many times.)absolutely LISTEN! listen to and CARE about what she says. If you can't do this then you have no business dating ANYONE. but i think you have that part down probably. Link to comment
Guest Snake McClain Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Yes, ask her, like Snake says. And on a related note:Stop Hanging Out With Women and Start Dating Themgreat link! Link to comment
MuayTyson Posted October 3, 2012 Report Share Posted October 3, 2012 Asking a Girl Out So there's this girl at work who has caught my eye (we've both only worked there for a couple weeks). The other day while eating lunch, she came over and sat next to me (even though we had only briefly met once a few days prior) and we had a pretty cool conversation. I'm hoping to ask her out, but I'm not exactly good at this, haha. So, girls, what do you think? I'm thinking of taking her on a picnic, an idea which my sister seems to be emphatically in support of. Any other ideas? Ummmm, Maybe you need to check what the company policy is on dating? I know a lot of people meet their significant others at work but it could be a bit tricky. Just a heads up before you continue. Race: Mul (Dark Sun, AD&D) Profession: Battle Monk Level:1 Str/4 Dex/3 Con/4 Wis/2 Cha/2 Link to comment
TheOtherScott Posted October 3, 2012 Report Share Posted October 3, 2012 Don't play the long game. Make your interest as clear as possible as soon as possible. The long game is a one-way ticket to the friend zone. PR's5k - 21:2910k - 47:26 43:2921.1 - 2:05:26 1:44:21 Link to comment
littleblue Posted October 3, 2012 Report Share Posted October 3, 2012 I don't think I can back Snake up enough here. I know in her place I would find such an approach 1) Flattering 2) Refreshing. Remember, women love confidence. [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Little Blue Level 1 Hobbit Adventurer STR 2 | DEX 3 | STA 2 | CON 2 | WIS 3 | CHA 3 1st Challenge "Never, never, never give up." --Winston Churchill Link to comment
dshale Posted October 3, 2012 Report Share Posted October 3, 2012 Your best opportunity was when she initiated the conversation. Strike while the iron is hot or she will think you are just not interested and you will go off the radar. Dwarf Monk Challenge thread Link to comment
ETFnerd Posted October 3, 2012 Report Share Posted October 3, 2012 I'd go against the grain and lead with:"Nice lips... wanna kiss?"... look her in the eyes (not creepy-like)... smile... and wait for her to respond... it works the same for me but it's more direct and lets me know right away whether she wants to go there with me... hahaha... must be willing to take rejection to take this tack, but it worked for me way back in the day.Good luck bro... ;-) i don't care what u think of me. unless u think i'm awesome. in which case u're right. Intro - Workout Log - ABS Log - Fitness Philosophy - Accountability - NERDEE - Weight Maintenance Link to comment
Rostov Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 I'd go against the grain and lead with:"Nice lips... wanna kiss?"... look her in the eyes (not creepy-like)... smile... and wait for her to respond... it works the same for me but it's more direct and lets me know right away whether she wants to go there with me... hahaha... must be willing to take rejection to take this tack, but it worked for me way back in the day.Good luck bro... ;-)Wow... that's a brave, brave, move, and fair play to you if you can pull that off - success or failure. Thing is, though, I don't think that's a tactic that would work for everyone (by which I mean I don't think it would work for me) or with everyone. I think the exact approach to take in asking someone out on a date depends on your culture, on your character and nature, and on that of your intended. That kind of approach would just be so far out of character for me that it would seem inauthentic at best, and probably sleazy at worst. It's not something that I'd have the charisma or the chutzpah to carry off. I'm not sure that everyone would respond well to it, either.Mind you, I've never unambiguously asked anyone out in my entire life, and because my partner asked me before I got round to asking her, I hope never to have to. So I'm certainly no expert on this. But my own plan (never used) was to ask her if she could help me with a dilemma. The dilemma being that I wasn't sure whether I should ask her out or not. It's a bit indirect, a bit tentative, a bit.... wet, but that's the kind of person I am. And perhaps ultimately however you approach these things, it's got to be authentic. Level 4 Human Adventurer / Level 4 Scout, couch to 5k graduate, six time marathon finisher. Spoiler Current 5k Personal Best: 22:00 / 21:23 / 21:13 / 21:09 / 20:55 / 20:25 (4th July 17) Current 5 mile PB: 36:41 35:27 34:52 (10th May 17) Current 10k PB: 44:58 44:27 44:07 44:06 43:50 (29th June 17) Current Half Marathon PB: 1:41:54 1:38:24 1:37:47 1:37:41 (14th June 15) Current Marathon PB: 3:39:34 3:29:49 (10th April 16) Link to comment
Arashi Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 I'd go against the grain and lead with:"Nice lips... wanna kiss?"... look her in the eyes (not creepy-like)... smile... and wait for her to respond... it works the same for me but it's more direct and lets me know right away whether she wants to go there with me... hahaha... must be willing to take rejection to take this tack, but it worked for me way back in the day.Good luck bro... ;-)LOL!!! Gotta say, I'd answer no. If I were in a good mood, I'd laugh at you; if not, expect a rude answer.Agree with Athena, it's way too soon for this kind of bold approach. Sounds a bit sleazy... go with the picnic, it's way nicer. Link to comment
rtalencar Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 LOL!!! Gotta say, I'd answer no. If I were in a good mood, I'd laugh at you; if not, expect a rude answer.Agree with Athena, it's way too soon for this kind of bold approach. Sounds a bit sleazy... go with the picnic, it's way nicer.That line totally works if you're already in a fifth of tequila (well perhaps that's just what it takes for that line to work for me...) IDDQD [sIGPIC][/sIGPIC] Current Challenge Race: MALIETOA Class: WARRIOR STR: 4 | DEX: 1 | STA: 1 | CON: 3 | WIS: 2 | CHA: 4 Link to comment
Gainsdalf the Whey Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 I'm a big backer of not asking girls out too soon and being friends first. It's what always worked best back in the day. There were plenty of girls I thought I liked and ended up not (romantically) after getting to know them better, or realized we didn't have enough in common for it to work. Friends first, then should you decide to date it goes so easily with a ton less pressure. Massrandir, Barkûn, Swolórin, The Whey Pilgrim 500 / 330 / 625 Challenges: 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 31 32 34 35 36 39 41 42 45 46 47 48 49 Current Challenge "No citizen has a right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable. " ~ Socrates "Friends don't let friends squat high." ~ Chad Wesley Smith "It's a dangerous business, Brodo, squatting to the floor. You step into the rack, and if you don't keep your form, there's no knowing where you might be swept off to." ~ Gainsdalf Link to comment
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