Men ONLY please...

[The Shogun]

I need to run something by the Man Council.

So there's this girl (isn't there ALWAYS a girl?) and I've known her for years. She's a waitress at my favorite local restaurant and that's how we met. We chat from time to time (read: when I can get her to reply) and I'd really like to see more of her, one date at least, but every time we make plans she comes up with something at the last minute and cancels.

I understand intellectually that I should just move along, but I'm kinda hung up on her. We've never spent any time together outside of her work, except for accidentally running into each other out in the world once, but I've known her for upwards of five years on a casual basis and I'm getting incredibly mixed messages. Literally, it's like shes 2 different girls who have two totally different opinions in regards to me.

I'm pretty sure I know how to deal with this, but I want your guys opinions.

Use the Brad Pitt rule

[Gainsdalf the Whey]

Use the Brad Pitt rule

There yah go, completely agree.

[Jcannon98188]

Gotta get out there guys. The thing I did to meet new friends that worked when I moved last time was to look up local nerdy groups. I focused on nerdy things to be more certain we'd have things in common. Things I looked into were local D&D meet ups, comic cons, and video game conventions. I settled on the D&D meet ups and actually hung with those people for a bit before I ended up just driving home every weekend and not having time. It would have worked out nicely otherwise.

DnD? How nerdy! This is NerdFitness we don---..... wait nevermind

[Guest Snake McClain]

Use the Brad Pitt rule

just like my momma said. if she's interested she'll be there.

[Church]

well...have you tried online dating? (if that's your bag) or a meetup group? you could get into some cool stuff, fitness related or no, and meet some new cool people men or women.

That's what I'm going to end up doing once I move. I have a lot of friends, but the majority of them are from work, and with the industry I'm in, most of them are from other provinces, and this can't just pop by for beers or something, and the rest are at work while I'm at home. Lol. So it's a royal pain. But I'm keeping tabs on a parkour club and a martial arts dojo for when I move to a more centralized location.

There's also Crossfit....

[aj_rock]

There's also any number of interest clubs, or team sports, if you're willing to try something new.

Definitely thought my life in my old city would be a pain... then I discovered we have a rugby club......

[Pat G]

There's also any number of interest clubs, or team sports, if you're willing to try something new.

Definitely thought my life in my old city would be a pain... then I discovered we have a rugby club......

^This

+1

Gold Star

Elephant Stamp

Also, thought this was amusing, a quote from the wikipedia article on the Smolov cycle:

Many lifters using this cycle need to ingest extra calories to make up for the extra work, this often takes place in a daily bowl of oats.

thats a whole lotta calories, unless the Russians have crazy oats.

[leadchipmunk]

well...have you tried online dating? (if that's your bag) or a meetup group? you could get into some cool stuff, fitness related or no, and meet some new cool people men or women.

Just gotta say, I recently heard of this site and thought it was an awesome niche idea. Geek 2 Geek. It is, obviously, and nerd focused dating site. Haven't used it myself, but thought I would pass it on when I saw the above post.

[aj_rock]

^This

+1

Gold Star

Elephant Stamp

My first Elephant Stamp! *tear*

[Guest Snake McClain]

My first Elephant Stamp! *tear*

yup. i remember kindergarten.

[KillerGriller]

New topic: What would you do with (most of) a week to yourself (but I still have to go to work-ish)...let me explain

My lovely wife is trying to take the kids to a friend's place and the cottage for a few days later in the month. Leaving me with Mon.-Thurs. with no one in the house, and essentially no responsibilities. To some of you this is every week, but it's been a long time since I've had the house to myself. Usually my weeks are pre-planned with taking kids to sports/lessons or watching the kids as my wife goes to her weekly activities or doing chores...basic Dad stuff.

I'm actually kind of concerned that I'll waste the opportunity and end up doing a lot of nothing, so with that in mind I'm looking for suggestions to make the most of my time. One caveat: I still have to work everyday, although if something cool came up I could be convinced to take a day off...hmmm...anyway, here are some of my ideas:

Twilight golf with a couple buddies - I'm terrible at golf but it'd be nice to get our with the guys

Put in a couple long-ass trail runs - Been a while since I've run long in the woods

Go see some live music again - There are a tonne of awesome pubs with live bands here, I kind of stopped doing when we had kids

Outdoor rock climbing - Again, I used to do this several times a week when I had the time, I think this one is a definite (weather permitting)

Buy a Wii game and rock it - I finished Call of Duty Modern Warfare a little while ago, might be time to buy another not-kid-appropriate and put some time in. I have to finish Goldeneye so there's that as well.

Work extra hours and bank time for another occassion/rainy day

Tackle a major Reno job - our front steps are rotting, it'd be nice to get a major job out of the way without little people interrupting

A lot of these can be mashed into the same days (e.g - golf & band, trail run & game, etc.)

Let's hear your suggestions!

[Denny]

Elephant Stamp? Looks it up on Google... I guess it's not the Urban Dictionary definition you guys are referring to?

[Jcannon98188]

New topic: What would you do with (most of) a week to yourself (but I still have to go to work-ish)...let me explain

My lovely wife is trying to take the kids to a friend's place and the cottage for a few days later in the month. Leaving me with Mon.-Thurs. with no one in the house, and essentially no responsibilities. To some of you this is every week, but it's been a long time since I've had the house to myself. Usually my weeks are pre-planned with taking kids to sports/lessons or watching the kids as my wife goes to her weekly activities or doing chores...basic Dad stuff.

I'm actually kind of concerned that I'll waste the opportunity and end up doing a lot of nothing, so with that in mind I'm looking for suggestions to make the most of my time. One caveat: I still have to work everyday, although if something cool came up I could be convinced to take a day off...hmmm...anyway, here are some of my ideas:

Twilight golf with a couple buddies - I'm terrible at golf but it'd be nice to get our with the guys

Put in a couple long-ass trail runs - Been a while since I've run long in the woods

Go see some live music again - There are a tonne of awesome pubs with live bands here, I kind of stopped doing when we had kids

Outdoor rock climbing - Again, I used to do this several times a week when I had the time, I think this one is a definite (weather permitting)

Buy a Wii game and rock it - I finished Call of Duty Modern Warfare a little while ago, might be time to buy another not-kid-appropriate and put some time in. I have to finish Goldeneye so there's that as well.

Work extra hours and bank time for another occassion/rainy day

Tackle a major Reno job - our front steps are rotting, it'd be nice to get a major job out of the way without little people interrupting

A lot of these can be mashed into the same days (e.g - golf & band, trail run & game, etc.)

Let's hear your suggestions!

I'd sleep. All. Day. Long.

Elephant Stamp? Looks it up on Google... I guess it's not the Urban Dictionary definition you guys are referring to?

Oh no. It was that definition. Giggity.

TBH I didn't know what they meant either, so I google'd it as well. I laughed at the Urban Dictionary definition as well

[Guest Snake McClain]

New topic: What would you do with (most of) a week to yourself (but I still have to go to work-ish)...let me explain

My lovely wife is trying to take the kids to a friend's place and the cottage for a few days later in the month. Leaving me with Mon.-Thurs. with no one in the house, and essentially no responsibilities. To some of you this is every week, but it's been a long time since I've had the house to myself. Usually my weeks are pre-planned with taking kids to sports/lessons or watching the kids as my wife goes to her weekly activities or doing chores...basic Dad stuff.

I'm actually kind of concerned that I'll waste the opportunity and end up doing a lot of nothing, so with that in mind I'm looking for suggestions to make the most of my time. One caveat: I still have to work everyday, although if something cool came up I could be convinced to take a day off...hmmm...anyway, here are some of my ideas:

Twilight golf with a couple buddies - I'm terrible at golf but it'd be nice to get our with the guys

Put in a couple long-ass trail runs - Been a while since I've run long in the woods

Go see some live music again - There are a tonne of awesome pubs with live bands here, I kind of stopped doing when we had kids

Outdoor rock climbing - Again, I used to do this several times a week when I had the time, I think this one is a definite (weather permitting)

Buy a Wii game and rock it - I finished Call of Duty Modern Warfare a little while ago, might be time to buy another not-kid-appropriate and put some time in. I have to finish Goldeneye so there's that as well.

Work extra hours and bank time for another occassion/rainy day

Tackle a major Reno job - our front steps are rotting, it'd be nice to get a major job out of the way without little people interrupting

A lot of these can be mashed into the same days (e.g - golf & band, trail run & game, etc.)

Let's hear your suggestions!

I tell you what...i say do ALL OF THEM! seriously. just go do a bunch of fun $#!% you don't normally get to do. she's out having fun and relaxing. you do the same. I would.

[Gainsdalf the Whey]

New topic: What would you do with (most of) a week to yourself (but I still have to go to work-ish)...let me explain

My lovely wife is trying to take the kids to a friend's place and the cottage for a few days later in the month. Leaving me with Mon.-Thurs. with no one in the house, and essentially no responsibilities. To some of you this is every week, but it's been a long time since I've had the house to myself. Usually my weeks are pre-planned with taking kids to sports/lessons or watching the kids as my wife goes to her weekly activities or doing chores...basic Dad stuff.

I'm actually kind of concerned that I'll waste the opportunity and end up doing a lot of nothing, so with that in mind I'm looking for suggestions to make the most of my time. One caveat: I still have to work everyday, although if something cool came up I could be convinced to take a day off...hmmm...anyway, here are some of my ideas:

Twilight golf with a couple buddies - I'm terrible at golf but it'd be nice to get our with the guys

Put in a couple long-ass trail runs - Been a while since I've run long in the woods

Go see some live music again - There are a tonne of awesome pubs with live bands here, I kind of stopped doing when we had kids

Outdoor rock climbing - Again, I used to do this several times a week when I had the time, I think this one is a definite (weather permitting)

Buy a Wii game and rock it - I finished Call of Duty Modern Warfare a little while ago, might be time to buy another not-kid-appropriate and put some time in. I have to finish Goldeneye so there's that as well.

Work extra hours and bank time for another occassion/rainy day

Tackle a major Reno job - our front steps are rotting, it'd be nice to get a major job out of the way without little people interrupting

A lot of these can be mashed into the same days (e.g - golf & band, trail run & game, etc.)

Let's hear your suggestions!

Happens to me now and again when my wife goes on woek travel since we have no kids. Because of the work commute, I still have noly about 4.5 hours from getting home until I have to go to bed. If I had my old 5.5-6 hours, I'd definitely do the golf. But, since I do have the time crunch, on my gym days I log extra long sessions since I don't have to worry about being home for dinner or hanging out with her for a bit, and on non-gym days I typically either go out to dinner and do guys nights or sit at home and wreak havok in the world of Skyrim (just started a new game!).

[KillerGriller]

I tell you what...i say do ALL OF THEM! seriously. just go do a bunch of fun $#!% you don't normally get to do. she's out having fun and relaxing. you do the same. I would.

I'd love to, but as Cory said, after commuting I realistically have about 4-5hrs per night to do anything and that's not including eating.

[Sloth the Enduring]

My new shoes look seriously, seriously dodgy. I don't care, but boy do they stand out!

Those shoes are hot. Where can I get a pair?

[Red1263]

Twilight golf with a couple buddies - I'm terrible at golf but it'd be nice to get our with the guys

Put in a couple long-ass trail runs - Been a while since I've run long in the woods

Go see some live music again - There are a tonne of awesome pubs with live bands here, I kind of stopped doing when we had kids

Outdoor rock climbing - Again, I used to do this several times a week when I had the time, I think this one is a definite (weather permitting)

Buy a Wii game and rock it - I finished Call of Duty Modern Warfare a little while ago, might be time to buy another not-kid-appropriate and put some time in. I have to finish Goldeneye so there's that as well.

Work extra hours and bank time for another occassion/rainy day

Tackle a major Reno job - our front steps are rotting, it'd be nice to get a major job out of the way without little people interrupting

Out of all of those ideas, I'd first do the Reno job, then the Trial runs With some Live music, if possible on the first few days (or however long it takes for you to complete the Reno job) then the following days would be Rock climbing and Wii, with Twilight Golfing and possibly more live music.

[Church]

I agree. Organize your time, and rock it all.

Oh, and have fun

[Atalan]

I'm starting to realize I live in a terrible place for online dating if I don't expand the mile limit on searches to a ridiculous distance (6+ hour drive distances).

[leadchipmunk]

Mt. Pleasant must be a horrible place all around. I live in Mt. Pleasant, Ohio and I had 9 matches within 20 miles. Most of them in the 17 to 20 mile range, and none within 10 miles. Now, if I expand it to 50 miles, I'll just barely get Pittsburgh, PA and a ton more matches, but I definitely wouldn't travel that far just for a date.

[Atalan]

Mt. Pleasant must be a horrible place all around. I live in Mt. Pleasant, Ohio and I had 9 matches within 20 miles. Most of them in the 17 to 20 mile range, and none within 10 miles. Now, if I expand it to 50 miles, I'll just barely get Pittsburgh, PA and a ton more matches, but I definitely wouldn't travel that far just for a date.

My friends and I like to call it Valley Tolerable. Since the Michigan MP is in a valley.

I've just noticed so many women I get 'matched' with have terrible grammar, readily admit they don't read and 95% start off with "I'm just a country girl..."

The rest have kids (you can call me an asshole if you want, but I do not want to get involved with someone in her lower 20s who already has kids).

[leadchipmunk]

Are you sure it isn't Ohio? Sounds like exactly where I am. Mount Pleasant is on a hill in a valley on a hill in the Ohio Valley, which is part of the foothills of the Appalachian Mountains... And everyone around here is "just a country girl" (though country is commonly misspelled, I wonder if on purpose) and have horrible grammar.

Also, got a good bit of those ladies around too. I can dig not wanting the kid thing; you know where you are in life, what you want and who you don't want (as in little ones running around).

[CowboyMisterIndependent]

Atalan- A: that does sound like Mt. Pleasant. I imagine Lansing (where I'm from) wouldn't be much better.

B: come say what up in the Michigan Meetup thread. Then come to one of our meetups.

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[leadchipmunk]

Atalan- A: that does sound like Mt. Pleasant. I imagine Lansing (where I'm from) wouldn't be much better.

First thought:

Oh God... Are you sure you aren't confusing Ohio with Michigan too? Lansing, OH is a small town (and by small town, I mean it is a suburb of a village that has fewer than 1200 people) that can be described in the exact same way, about a half hour away from my Mt. Pleasant...

Second thought:

Wait, isn't Lansing, MI the capital of Michigan. It's gotta have a sizeable population and plenty of options for online dating. Well, I guess that depends on if they are too much of a "country girl" to even be able to use the Internet... Hey, Rednecks are horrible everywhere in the MidWest.