What men love about women

[FyreFlies]

That statement is flawed. Men and perfect do not fit in the same sentence. AND YOU'RE NOT FUNNY IRISH! =/

 

Please refer to comment #123.

[Irish Oisin]

I remember once with an ex I gave her a big raspberry in the morning and she was squirming from the tickles and laughing and she let this big fart...I nearly died from the laughter while she was embarrassed saying "Oh nooo, girls don't fart in front of their men".

 

It took me about 25 minutes to stop laughing.

 

Bikini and food, grand!

[RisenPhoenix]

I love an hourglass figure, but a fit one. Girl next door looks, a woman who doesn't need or want make-up. Smokers and heavy drinkers really turn me off, smoking in particular, when I see a woman smoking it's honestly like she's sucking on a turd. My hatred of smoking is THAT bad!

I fucking love freckles. Freckles all over.

 

Good sense of humour, a sense of adventure, love of the outdoors, loves trying new things, independent, loves a bit of exercise, sane, a passion for real things - not passionate about "reality" tv for example, those shows genuinely make people stupid...that kinda thing

 

But I'm not holding my breath, I've been single for 6 years now. My friends have told me to lower my standards, but if I'm going to do that I may as well give up on myself and get fat and unkempt and stop leaving my house. 

 

Someone who loves getting silly, like dancing in the kitchen while cooking dinner, laughing to raspberries (making fart noises by blowing on someones stomach, like you do when you're younger), a bit of a play wrestle, and compassion, lots of compassion.

 

Dude, the more I read your posts, the more I feel like we're mental twins.

 

+1 on pretty much all of those things mentioned.  And depressingly also the many-years-single part.  And being told to lower my standards.  Meh.

 

I've also noticed myself noticing Blondes more recently, too.  Which I find weird, since historically I couldn't care less.  But I definitely need someone a little zany to push me out the door occasionally... because I'm a hermit.

[Irish Oisin]

It's good to know I don't want things that are unreasonable!!

 

At this stage, if it happens, it happens and if it doesn't happen, I'll still have a good life, because the be-all and end-all of life isn't about having a boyfriend/girlfriend, it's about being happy on your own! Or happy with my dog, who is a complete legend by the way.

[ceethegreat]

You know, this story would not have interested me had I not read this thread... half nekkid girl + steak: http://www.happyplace.com/22588/pantsless-steak-thief-yields-excellent-headline

[Rexxar Txan]

I am more of a lips guy. Not too full nor too thin...

[FyreFlies]

I'm curious.. at what age do guys even know what they want in a girl? I mean like truely (meaning when they've gotten past the body/looks obsession).

 

I think for girls it's sooner than for the guys. But I could be wrong!

[Rexxar Txan]

I'm curious.. at what age do guys even know what they want in a girl? I mean like truely (meaning when they've gotten past the body/looks obsession).

 

I think for girls it's sooner than for the guys. But I could be wrong!

 

From a psyschological point of view guys usually mature slower than gals. I'd say a guy knows what he wants once he has experienced all he can. There really isn't an age, more a level of maturity.

[Irish Oisin]

I've known what I've wanted for a few years and I'm 27, but I know guys who knew it younger. I think it's different for everyone though!

 

As long as I've known what I want, women who DON'T know what they want have been attracted to me, hahaha!

[FyreFlies]

I think that although women mature faster - they might not know what they want either. Or they have a fairytale version of it stuck in their heads. Sometimes we don't realise that there's no such thing as prince charming - the rich, insanely gorgeous, crazy sweet guy who will bend at your ever whim and will.

 

I blame media. Over time, and unfortunately after a few broken hearts, girls wake up and say.. hmm, I guess I can deal with x-y-z flaw in my dude, but cannot deal with a-b-c flaw no matter what.

 

Like Brian said.. I guess it comes with experience yea.

[Irish Oisin]

The dating scene, in my experience, is really fucked up. I'm just open an honest and don't play games, but that's interpreted as weirdness. Acting like I like someone because I like someone...is crazy talk to some people! And I think it is media's fault too, people's expectations are very messed up!

 

What I love in women, honesty!

[FyreFlies]

Honesty huh? Do you blame them for lying though? We're told constantly that aging is ugly - so we lie about our age (or at least don't say it when asked). Same goes with weight. Heck, we get all sorts of implants, fakes, lifts, tucks and everything else just because we're meant to believe that's what you dudes "dig."

 

And you dudes dig it because of all the emphasis on the perfect-bodied woman that you're bombarded with. Most dudes have the wrong idea of what intimacy is because porn has so messed up with their minds. They see a lady who likes to dress nice and big red flags go up in your mind that somehow she's calling out to you sexually.

 

Gawd, sorry.. I've turned this into a preaching session. I think it's very interesting - the dynamics of dating/relationships. There's a cause to everything - once you know it, a whole new understanding opens up.

[Irish Oisin]

I hate all of the fake stuff though, I even hate make-up. It wrecks my head (Irish phrase for "annoys me").

 

I do think that women are told by other women what is and isn't beautiful, and men are bombarded with it so we assume that's what's beautiful. It's fucked up. You can't tell anyone nowadays that they're beautiful or pretty without them thinking you're up to something either...it's a very sad world

[goodbyeharrison]

I hate all of the fake stuff though, I even hate make-up. It wrecks my head (Irish phrase for "annoys me").

 

I do think that women are told by other women what is and isn't beautiful, and men are bombarded with it so we assume that's what's beautiful. It's fucked up. You can't tell anyone nowadays that they're beautiful or pretty without them thinking you're up to something either...it's a very sad world

 

I never got into makeup growing up, always hated the fake look. For a while i wore it thinking that's what i should do, at least when i go to the bars or out drinking, and then i finally said screw it one day and quit wearing it. I think it's sad when girls won't leave the house without putting it on. I had a girl recently tell me she wanted to see me with makeup, i told her it wasn't gonna happen, i told her i don't need makeup or at least i don't feel the need to wear it. All natural. And i find guys tend to like that look anyways. If not, guys don't look at my face.

[Red1263]

That's the problem with society, They're TELLING us, what WE should depict as beautiful rather than trust our own instincts. I know what I'm looking for, and this is something I discovered for myself, and not from society. Make-up, tucks, Plastic surgery for purely cosmetic purposes, and not out of a necessity, is just plain horrible.

[AnnleaArtsy]

Honesty huh? Do you blame them for lying though? We're told constantly that aging is ugly - so we lie about our age (or at least don't say it when asked). Same goes with weight. Heck, we get all sorts of implants, fakes, lifts, tucks and everything else just because we're meant to believe that's what you dudes "dig."

 

And you dudes dig it because of all the emphasis on the perfect-bodied woman that you're bombarded with. Most dudes have the wrong idea of what intimacy is because porn has so messed up with their minds. They see a lady who likes to dress nice and big red flags go up in your mind that somehow she's calling out to you sexually.

 

Gawd, sorry.. I've turned this into a preaching session. I think it's very interesting - the dynamics of dating/relationships. There's a cause to everything - once you know it, a whole new understanding opens up.

 

To be honest I do not know one guy who thinks like that. I mean I am positive there are men out there like that but luckily in my little group of friends...no. My husband DESPISES make up and would rather me be in workout gear then all dressed up with makeup on. 

 

I think I'm pretty without any procedures and so does my husband...and if others don't think so then who cares...they don't have to live with my looks.

[guest439437484421]

I drive my grilfriend crazy, because i tell her she's beautiful whether she's all dressed up or just woken up.

[Irish Oisin]

hahaha, I had the same problem with an ex, whenever I told her she was beautiful she'd roll her eyes and say that I couldn't mean it because I always said it. Let that statement sink in people.

[I-Jo]

whew- this is a hot topic...

 

women are fooling themselves if they think they don't look better without some make up.  sorry ladies. it's true. not saying you aren't fabulous without it- but a little mascara goes a long way.

 

That being said there is a time and place for it.  I don't much care for full cake make up- but I do wear it occasionally because I perform and if you are under bright lights on a stage- guess what- you better look like a French whore at 3 feet.  That's how it works.   I think every woman should have some lessons on applying make up- they think because they are female it just happens- nope nope- it's a skill- it takes practice and time to make it look good. 

 

But yes- media has spent a great deal of time convincing us of what is "beautiful" and what is not.  

 

Most polls and studies show that men always prefer a very neutral make up look to completely bare- mostly because when they say "make up" it means full smokey eye and and a pronounced lip.    They don't recognize a crap ton more make up went into that "neutral" look.

 

 

I admit I have a hard time understanding/believing my BF when he says I look beautiful when I know I'm a hot mess- hair sticking out- sagging tired eyes and usually scruffy clothes. But- if he thinks I am- so be it- but I want an equal amount of enthusiasm when I look shit hot in my LBD and put some effort into my appearance.  Regardless of if you think I"m hot or not- fucking fake it. I put time into it and I think I look good- so tell me that.  

 

I would say that's probably more the issue than anything else- I can understand why you think I'm sexy/beautiful when I just woke up- I do- but please tell them that when I go out of my WAY to look it.  that annoys me when I do and I don't get any appreciation LOL

[cn3wton]

My view on what I "wanted" has changed over the years.

 

I think most young boys find an attractive actress, model, etc and that's their ideal. As they mature they slowly chip away at this until they realize that things ideals like that are just superficial.

 

When my friends as I was younger we each had something we looked for.  Boobs, butt, etc. That's the immaturity talking.

 

What I look for in a woman now is based on much more practical reasoning. I know it makes me sound like I am lying but personality is a huge deal for me. Example:  I was in Victoria's secret and a very attractive girl was working out on the floor tidying up. I was in the pink section of the store, so I thought it would be funny (and a good way to break the ice) to ask her where all the pink stuff was. Well she giggled looked me straight in the eye and said "its everywhere what are you looking for?".  Now in type it doesn't sound so bad. But how she said it made me cringe.  It was the classic  "im pretty and I know it" aloof kind of person. I should point out that I was carrying bags for my cousin while she shopped, I don't just hang around victorias secret.

 

The other thing is a girls level of care and pride in herself. Girls who are confident with themselves are a huge deal for me.  Not boisterous though. Example? The last girl I dated was a nude model for figure drawing classes. I don't think many people would be anywhere near that comfortable with themselves. On the same track a little make up is nice, but too much is just bad.  What are you trying to hide?

 

When it comes to fitness and activity I look for a girl that is around the same level as me. Going outside and biking, hiking, swimming etc. If they would just rather sit down and do nothing then no thanks.

 

Now body type, this is what all girls want to know, just like how all guys want to know what girls "like". Its usually all referring to looks. I can say right now that every guy is different. For me I like girls who are on the... thicker side? Im not talking obese or overweight. Most "models" I do not find attractive. I know they are beautiful, but for me if you can see your ribs all the time I think you need to eat something. Its very hard to describe without pointing at someone and saying "that's it!".  And that just gets awkward. To be honest I think the only person who gets it is my Grandfather since he has similar thoughts. ( Which he voiced quite loudly when he saw the girl sitting in the booth next to us when I took him to Red Lobster for lunch... like I said, awkward.)

 

As far as body type goes, generally your lifestyle influences your body.  Do you like to sit and play video games all day and never go outside? Chances are you aren't going to end up with someone who goes to the gym and runs marathons.  I believe that most people prefer their significant other to have a similar body structure. My best friend is really skinny, he likes skinny girls.  I am a thicker stockier guy, I like girls that are a little thicker. Two of my friends are athletes, their girlfriends are athletes.

 

So for any girls reading this for advice. Take pride in yourself and the right person will notice. The biggest thing I can say to you is be brave and say something to the guy. I am generally a pretty clueless guy. I grew up with my cousin so she is like a sister to me.  Along with that the majority of my friends growing up where girls. I am used to having friends that are girls. Just talking to me isn't going to trigger something in my brain that says "Oh she is talking to me she must like me". Seriously do something like say "hey I like you, we should get dinner/lunch".  Or even just make some kind of physical contact like a hug. Hell my first serious relationship started when the girl I liked grabbed me and kissed me. (I wont go into the details about what my last girlfriend did to show her interest, but it was pretty obvious she was interested.) 

 

So you may be saying "But that's the mans job!". There is a chance that if this guy hasn't asked you out that he is either unaware of your feelings, or just too shy too say anything. Now you may be worried "what if he doesn't feel the same and I get embarrassed?" I don't think many guys would shoot you down nearly as bad as some women shot me down (yay for personal experience). For us that's an awesome occurrence in the day. Many girls think that the dating line is a line that once crossed its over.  Many of my past girlfriends are still really good friends of mine.  Asking a guy out and him saying no doesn't mean that you can never talk to him again.

[Irish Oisin]

I absolutely, 100% agree with you man!! Very well said!

[I-Jo]

Agreed- great post.

 

(MY BF doesn't work out at this point and it drives me bonkers- I wouldn't say it's a breaking point- but it bothers me sometimes- also makes eating difficult sometimes- but he's getting better about what he eats- I"m scared for any day we move in though!!!)

 

 

ow you may be worried "what if he doesn't feel the same and I get embarrassed?" I don't think many guys would shoot you down nearly as bad as some women shot me down (yay for personal experience). For us that's an awesome occurrence in the day. Many girls think that the dating line is a line that once crossed its over.  Many of my past girlfriends are still really good friends of mine.  Asking a guy out and him saying no doesn't mean that you can never talk to him again.

 

The answer will always be no if you never ask

[FyreFlies]

To be honest I do not know one guy who thinks like that. I mean I am positive there are men out there like that but luckily in my little group of friends...no. My husband DESPISES make up and would rather me be in workout gear then all dressed up with makeup on. 

 

Annlea - my post went far beyond just makeup. That's at the lower end of the concerning thing. I see nothing wrong with women maintaining themselves and looking good - I like to do henna tattoos and wear eyeliner - EVERY DAY. I meant more as in the image of what a woman is as portrayed to young men everywhere.

 

Excellent post Cn3wton.

[cn3wton]

As you can probably tell I have spent quite a bit of time thinking about this.

 

I am glad you all liked it. Half the battle is being realistic with yourself about what you are looking for.

 

I can tell you losing weight and exercising boosts your confidence immensely (again, personal experience). I can only imagine how gutsy I get when I reach my goals... haha

 

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[AnnleaArtsy]

Annlea - my post went far beyond just makeup. That's at the lower end of the concerning thing. I see nothing wrong with women maintaining themselves and looking good - I like to do henna tattoos and wear eyeliner - EVERY DAY. I meant more as in the image of what a woman is as portrayed to young men everywhere.

 

Excellent post Cn3wton.

Ah okay gotcha.