LGBTQA and Ally Safe Space

[zeroh13]

Has anyone seen the new profiles they are going to launch here sooner or later? They should be available to anybody in the academy or the yoga program.

Please tell me that I got it wrong, but if I want to be a monk there as I am here, I must choose between a definitively-male monk and a definitively-female monk. But I am so happy as a neuter(ed) monk!

Oh, and hi to the new and old folks after a long break from online life during which I got rid of all the (for me) annoying female bits

Are you talking about the epic quest stuff? If you are, the thread with the guidelines/FAQ is here: "http://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/topic/76933-create-your-nerd-fitness-character-and-level-up-your-life-now. It's also been doubling as the suggestion thread.

On there, all of the avatar drawings are obviously gendered. My class is set to rebel for the time being, because at least that is a group drawing. Though honestly, I'm not sure I'll even end up using the epic quest stuff unless/until I can pick something that fits me better or at the very least have the option to not pick a drawing. The idea seems cool, but it's also completely optional.

And hello!

[Ahyar Dreamspark]

Has anyone seen the new profiles they are going to launch here sooner or later? They should be available to anybody in the academy or the yoga program.

Please tell me that I got it wrong, but if I want to be a monk there as I am here, I must choose between a definitively-male monk and a definitively-female monk. But I am so happy as a neuter(ed) monk!

 

Oh, and hi to the new and old folks after a long break from online life during which I got rid of all the (for me) annoying female bits

 

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR LOSS I hope recovery was quick and pain-free!

 

And yeah, the avatar selection for character images are rather...meh. The art isn't bad, but there definitely needs to be more options. Or there at least needs to be the option to select an avatar from another class.

[Deidara]

Did y'all know: hormones come in patches??? I'm getting back on testosterone after.. almost a year and a half off it and I'm trying out the Androderm patches. The adhesive doesn't seem very good, I'm hoping they don't fall off if I break too much of a sweat or something.

[SolitaryOrchid]

The adhesive doesn't seem very good, I'm hoping they don't fall off if I break too much of a sweat or something.

 

That's one complaint I've heard about them is not sticking. Can you let me know how well it works because I have an intense fear of needles so I'm thinking it will have to be the patch or the gel for me.

[Deidara]

That's one complaint I've heard about them is not sticking. Can you let me know how well it works because I have an intense fear of needles so I'm thinking it will have to be the patch or the gel for me.

I will absolutely let you know! As of now, I'm only on day 3 and they stay on in the shower at least, which is good. Irritation is another common concern, but that seems to be a very individual thing so you can't really predict it... I have a little bit but i'm experimenting to see where I can put them to minimize that.

 

I have a follow-up with my doc at the end of March, so I can give an update then since i'll have a better idea of how well they work!

[Ahyar Dreamspark]

Re. the patches: do you need a new one every day? And do they cost a lot? I'm also wondering if they would have more and more trouble staying on as more and more body hair started showing up :\

 

I'm fairly satisfied with the needles so far, since they're quick and effortless, and only have to be done once a week. They're also rather painless o_O Maybe I'm missing nerves or something?

[Tkal]

Re. the patches: do you need a new one every day? And do they cost a lot? I'm also wondering if they would have more and more trouble staying on as more and more body hair started showing up :\

 

I'm fairly satisfied with the needles so far, since they're quick and effortless, and only have to be done once a week. They're also rather painless o_O Maybe I'm missing nerves or something?

Let's keep also in mind that, although in principle the hormone is the same and the doses are similar, the body react differently and in the end everyone is unique. Also, at different time you react differently to the same stuff.

For me any transdermal format does not work well, my blood test were always borderline and I felt a mess. Now I get an injection every 12 weeks (not the same formula that Naxius is injecting, of course)  and then I can forget about it. No spikes, no sluggishness.

Trying a different formula can help. Just be careful and experiment under medical supervision. Safety first!

[Ojuntapu]

I'm taking my T shot every other week. I was worried about spikes and drops in hormone levels, but it's all very good so far - 7 months on T. I have a tremor disorder and I was also worried about giving myself my own shot. The tremor gets worse during stress so I didn't know for sure if I could do my own shots or not. The nurse gave me a lesson in how to do my own shots and I gave myself my very first shot and it went really well. Tai chi and chi gung meditation actually really helped- I was able to calm my mind but have a sharp mental focus, relax all my muscles and sort of drop the needle into my leg like I was doing a Tai Chi form. When I hesitate and think it's going to hurt, I mess up the shot and it does hurt. When I just *do* the shot it works so much better. So if you are afraid of needles or having troubles with giving yourself shots, you may want to take some Tai Chi. I know it sounds a bit strange, but it really helped me. If I am having a hard day, I'll take it the next day and it's not really a big problem. I also went in to a transgender shot clinic in my city and had them do it once and asked some questions, they were very nice and knew some practical things the nurse didn't about injections.

[Deidara]

Re. the patches: do you need a new one every day? And do they cost a lot? I'm also wondering if they would have more and more trouble staying on as more and more body hair started showing up :\

 

I'm fairly satisfied with the needles so far, since they're quick and effortless, and only have to be done once a week. They're also rather painless o_O Maybe I'm missing nerves or something?

Yup, you have to change it once a day, at the same time each day. And because irritation is so common you can't use the same spot in a 7-day period. And the pamphlet does say to avoid putting it over very hairy areas because it might not stick, i shaved my thigh before putting them there. (ETA: they are VERY expensive if your insurance doesn't cover them. Mine does, so i pay $20/month, but without coverage it's at LEAST $440 for the same amount)

 

I had an ok time with the injections when i was on them for 8 months back in 2014, didn't hurt really, but since my work schedule and the clinic's walk-in hours didn't line up well (and i can't self-inject) it was just really inconvenient. I also had mood swings and weird sleep problems the day of/after each injection. That's why i'm trying the patches this time and so far i'm not getting the same spike-related side effects.

[Guzzi]

You know when people say "I have nothing against gay people, as long as *they keep it to themselves" (*variation = don't rub it in your face)

Just what the fuck do they mean by that???

"I'm ok that you're gay, so long as I can pretend you're not"?

"I'm ok with gay people so long as they accept homophobia towards them and don't ever speak up about the subject"?

"I'm ok with gay people so long as they never show the normal signs of affection towards their partner in public and always remember that they do not have the same rights as the rest of us"???

That pisses me off waaaay more than people who come out (bad pun) and say that they're not comfortable with other sexualities. At least they're being honest. They don't have to be comfortable with it, any more than my granny isn't comfortable with public displays of affection from anyone, straight people included. She's entitled to her feelings just as much as I'm entitled to hold my partners hand as I'm walking (ha!) down the street.

Sorry, it just gets on my nerves soooooo much. And I'm straight! Holy fuck, what must it be like for someone who isn't????

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[Jett]

Sooo, I stumbled across this: costume beards made of human hair that actually look pretty good: http://stores.ebay.de/11ter11ter-d-e/i.html?_fsub=18182123018

 

It's German ebay, but you can use google translate to translate the page for navigation. Just thought someone might appreciate it. :3

[SolitaryOrchid]

You know when people say "I have nothing against gay people, as long as *they keep it to themselves" (*variation = don't rub it in your face)

Just what the fuck do they mean by that???

"I'm ok that you're gay, so long as I can pretend you're not"?

"I'm ok with gay people so long as they accept homophobia towards them and don't ever speak up about the subject"?

"I'm ok with gay people so long as they never show the normal signs of affection towards their partner in public and always remember that they do not have the same rights as the rest of us"???

That pisses me off waaaay more than people who come out (bad pun) and say that they're not comfortable with other sexualities. At least they're being honest. They don't have to be comfortable with it, any more than my granny isn't comfortable with public displays of affection from anyone, straight people included. She's entitled to her feelings just as much as I'm entitled to hold my partners hand as I'm walking (ha!) down the street.

Sorry, it just gets on my nerves soooooo much. And I'm straight! Holy fuck, what must it be like for someone who isn't????

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I find these kinds of people are also often the kinds that say things like, "It's ok that you're black, but do you have to listen to that gangster music in public/drive that low rider/wear your pants low?" Basically complaining about anything they think of as "black" or "other" behavior. People who do this usually just don't like that not everyone is like them, because they're obviously the best so why wouldn't everyone want to be like them. 'Tis frustrating.

 

Sooo, I stumbled across this: costume beards made of human hair that actually look pretty good: http://stores.ebay.de/11ter11ter-d-e/i.html?_fsub=18182123018

 

It's German ebay, but you can use google translate to translate the page for navigation. Just thought someone might appreciate it. :3

 

OMG! I wish I had 40 Euros to toss around!

[Reluctant Amazon]

I'm quite vain for an Amazon trying to escape her ogre curse.

That's me right now. Little makeup. I might just make it.

[Ahyar Dreamspark]

Looking fab there, RA!

 

With time, the ogre curse will be overcome

[Mollum]

Hi all. Queer girl, trying-to-be-fit nerd. Yay for this thread.

[Frost of the Gloaming]

Just remember RA Ogres have layers, little by little is all you can do.

[Daflyboy84]

although I am straight, I just wanted to stop by and wish you all the best of luck with this group/thread. I think it is great that you represent this demographic as it shows how broad a group we have. And although it goes without saying, always be true to yourself and live the life you want to live...if people cant understand that then the hell with them. Take care Guys and dolls!

[Artinum]

And well done for posting here - has it really been almost a month since the last time someone popped by?

[Twilight]

And well done for posting here - has it really been almost a month since the last time someone popped by?

 

I've been avoiding this thread because I often find it upsetting. Too many people have come in and stirred stuff up. I deal with that enough in meatspace; I'm curating my online experience very heavily these days.

[Flagwaver]

I'm straight, married, and have friends that are L, G, B, and T.  If you're willing to better yourself physically, then you're a friend of mine.  I love all of my friends, regardless of how society views them.

 

Look at it this way, we're all equal in the eyes of the Doctor.

[Artinum]

"Meatspace" - I love that! Must try to remember that one...

[Guzzi]

Way to go RA! You look great, and I think it's fantastic that you felt comfortable to post the pic.

I just thought I'd leave this: https://twobruteyogis.wordpress.comhere for anyone who hasn't already found it. It's a very open and honest blog by a married gay couple. Well worth a read.

[Frost of the Gloaming]

Meatspace sounds like an awful but truthful hook up app, "Get on to get off"

 

 

 

I thought this was funny

 

"Asexual porn movie

 

The plumber actually fixes the broken sink"

[Artinum]

I thought this was funny

 

"Asexual porn movie - The plumber actually fixes the broken sink"

 

I think this is the fundamental reason why I can't get into porn. They have one job and they don't do it. Look, we can screw all you like later - but fix that bloody tap first!!

[Frost of the Gloaming]

I'm picturing this now, (me as the plumber)

 

Plumber, "ok all fixed, it's going to be $120"

them trying to look seductive "well I don't have any money, can I make it up in any other way?"

them, starts showing a little more skin

Plumber totally oblivious, "hmmmm let me think about it"

them, starts getting naked

Plumber, "you can make me some food I'll knock some money off your bill and you can pay me later"

them gets re-dressed "oh ok"