MEN ONLY THREAD part two

[WizardTrip]

back hair and shoulder hair are fine, but what about shoulder hair?

 

  Huh?

 

 

Haven't chimed in here for a bit, but here's my take on my own personal "body image" and hair situation.

 

- Facial hair....can't grow it, wish I could. Yep, grass is always greener I know, but just once I'd love to have a nice 5 o'clock shadow. My dad, full beard...my brother, 5 o'clock shadow at noon...me, jack!

- Chest hair...I've got plenty. I keep that stuff trimmed to keep it from getting unruly. Not shaved....trimmed.

- Back hair....I've got a bit and I hate it. I get it waxed ~3 times a year, along with the bit on the shoulders. Also, for me, the waxing is actually therapeutic, so it doesn't hurt IMO.

- Other? Simply put....I maintain...nothing wrong with a bit of overall manscaping.

[Frost of the Gloaming]

So while scanning the news today I saw that Japan came out with a .01mm condom; that has to be so much better than the balloons the US still uses.

 

Though I have to say Lifestyles Skyn was a lot better feeling than a late 90's Trojan

[citizenkade]

I am a hairy, hairy beast. And if that were the biggest body issue I faced every day, my life would be pretty cool. I can't help my Wookiee DNA!

[Vidarrix]

I used to worry about how my back hair would probably turn away the ladies, but now I just don't care. I guess being single has its benefits. I am pretty sure I have a good amount of caveman genes in me. On the bright side, I can grow an amazing full beard.

[Rooks]

I'd gladly take chest and back hair if I meant I could grow a full beard.  Just can't get anything beyond my goatee.  

[Jittersthe.Clown]

I can go for a solid week of not shaving and maybe get something that looks like facial hair... 

[Frost of the Gloaming]

shaved head full beard, yay or nay?

[dntspard]

I can go for a solid week of not shaving and maybe get something that looks like facial hair... 

I just look scraggly as hell even after a month...curly hair means facial hair isn't the best for beards and such.

 

 

 

shaved head full beard, yay or nay?

I think it's one of those things that depends on how you look bald. Usually not too bad a combo unless you have never been bald and aren't comfortable with the lack of hair.

[Rooks]

shaved head full beard, yay or nay?

 

Yay.

 

[Artinum]

Fittingly, my best efforts at a beard leave me looking like Satan. It's especially good on a bad hair day when it sticks up in horn-like tufts.

When I finally removed the beard, I took a photo of me with just the moustache. I'm surprised the camera didn't break.

Ever since then... I shave. Sorry, Movember, but the world will be better off if I don't join in. Trust me.

[Gainsdalf the Whey]

Yay.

 

 

I have met this man^. He showed me where the collars for the barbells were when I was lifting in his gym.

[kingclumsy]

I have quite a hairy stomach, it doesnt bother me but my fiance prefers me without it, so I shave it semi-regularly. Thats about it.

 

I compensate by having a full beard

[67alecto]

shaved head full beard, yay or nay?

I rocked it for Halloween when I went as Max Payne.  I've decided I like the shaved head (well, shaved with #1 guard anyway), so I've kept that.  I'm down to a mustache/soul patch though.

 

[kiruji]

This thread seems like a sensible place to ask... Anyone have any tips on getting a spouse to start enjoying sex again?  Long story, but briefly - had child, libido disappeared, sex stopped.  Any ideas?  Willing to try anything at this point.

[Jittersthe.Clown]

Talk to her about it.  When the kids come, so much time is spent running all the mother-like systems, new mothers tend to forget about things like sex.  My wife went through the same thing with our first child.  There is some time needed for healing on the mother's end, so that should be taken into account as well.  

[kiruji]

Thanks for the reply, but I should have put more info into my post - rushing around and posted half the details.

 

This happened after the birth of our third child.  Child is now 21 months old.  My wife had been slowly going off sex for a while before the birth though.  It's been well over 2 years since we had penetrative sex at this point.

[Jittersthe.Clown]

I would still talk to her about it.  There could be any number of things going on with that, and until you both know what's going on, you have no chance of figuring it out.  Take the time to figure it out together.  Here's hoping for you.

[Frost of the Gloaming]

The only thing I can say is try to make her less stressed; I swear to Jeebus that lemon pledge is an aphrodisiac

 

Communication is key

[Suited hippy]

When was the last time you took her on a date? 

 

Set something up real nice. Get a sitter for all the kids- out of the house.

 

Surprise her. Grab her favorite flowers, perhaps the same from your wedding, of her bouquet.  Send them to her work, with an invite to go out that night. (make sure her schedule is clear first)

 

Go get a hair cut, clean pressed suit (or fancy equivalent of your style), dapper gent style.

 

Go out to perhaps a restaurant that has meaning to you two.

 

Follow up with an outdoor activity to enjoy the winter weather.

 

Pause on the activity, just to tell her how much she makes your life worth living.

 

Make her feel beautiful. Make her feel like she needs you. Make her want you.

 

Prime the pump, make her remember why she liked having sex with you before it stopped.

[Schmopey]

What Suited Hippy said, and Frost is on to something with the lemon Pledge, but it only works when it's been used by someone else; I dust, jackpot, my wife has to dust, not happening.

 

Have you heard of The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It helps explain why the people we love sometimes don't know it.

 

Also, has your wife seen a doctor or counselor? Even very mild depression can destroy sex drive, as can a myriad of other things.

[Church]

A great tip I heard recently, in regards to communication with the spouse: if talking face to face leads to fights, try going to different rooms and leave each other voicemails. That way they (and you) HAVE to listen. Emotions stay down and hostility doesn't erupt. You can't argue or fight with a voicemail.

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[kiruji]

Thanks for all your comments guys.

[Rooks]

Pretty much with most of the guys here.  Just talk about it.  Hopefully sitting down and open the discussion will at least be a start.  

 

Also, not sure how much physical contact you have, but that could also help.  Whether it be just sitting close to each other on the couch while watching a show, giving her a quick back rub if she seems upset, or hugging and kissing when you get home from your days.  I find that in my experience that those little things alone can sometimes plant the seed for both my wife and myself of "Hey, we both like physical contact with each other." and that can quickly grow.  

 

COMPLETELY UNRELATED NOTE:  does anyone else find it weird that Spezzy's face shows up at the top of the Men's Only Thread?  I mean I realize there isn't really a way to "keep the women folk out" but it's just strange that she created it.    

[Frost of the Gloaming]

I think Spezzy's pic is funny, it's almost like a warning that if you read some of these posts that's the face you're going to make

 

 

That works for me Rooks, what also works for me is the "hey I know we've been super busy and we are going to be super busy for the next few days but lets just make out for like 5 mins no sex", do that a few times during the dry spell and she ends up initiating after things settle down

[Schmopey]

COMPLETELY UNRELATED NOTE:  does anyone else find it weird that Spezzy's face shows up at the top of the Men's Only Thread?  I mean I realize there isn't really a way to "keep the women folk out" but it's just strange that she created it.  

 

As I understand it, part one of the thread got so big it broke, so Spezzy started part two in her role as admin.