This is awkward...

[Lincoln_R1]

Hey everyone. I'm Lincoln. I really hate these kinds of things, but I guess I have to start somewhere. Not that I hate talking about myself, I just don't like doing it so publicly. I'm an introvert, and I can rarely get over my anxieties about going out in public. I honestly feel like an unkempt aquarium: a big bulky eyesore.

 

So far in my fitness journey, I've made some progress. About four years ago, I hit my highest weight at 357lbs. It wasn't long after that that I decided to change that. I was like Hercules, wanted to go from "zero to hero" kind of thing. And besides several injuries and multiple mental and emotional setbacks, I was making progress.

 

Last July was my lowest recorded weight, 298lbs. This last year has ended my downward trend though. After losing a few friends, a family schism, and a major career shift, I ended up rising again. I'm constantly hovering between 310 and 320.

 

My family supports my efforts, though only in spirit. I can't get anyone to work out with me, or kick my butt when I'm falling off the wagon. My friends don't help. They express pride, but haven't made good on their offers to work out with me. My schedule is also pretty full, and I can't keep to a workout schedule. Not enough energy, even though I know working out will help with that (scumbag brain)...

 

So yeah. I'm here for motivation. Honestly I don't know if I can find any. Anything I run by myself I counter or dismiss. Honestly, my bitterness  (brought on in part by my apparent lack of progress) is killing my fitness efforts. I can't stay motivated for more than a few hours. 

 

This is one of those things I haven't tried, and I've been wanting to try a blog/vlog thing for a while. Hopefully I can get my butt in gear with your guys's help. I may also talk about my aquariums and DND from time to time, along with other life boosts/hindrances. Time for me to get hyped. Might just do a header on my posts, just to keep it nerdy...

 

Anyway, thanks for reading. Have a good Labor Day. 

[RonRoen]

16 minutes ago, Lincoln_R1 said:

can rarely get over my anxieties about going out in public. I honestly feel like an unkempt aquarium: a big bulky eyesore.

 

 

 

Hello!

I feel the same way too...Its like feeling judged all the time, even my reflection judges me sometimes...

whats worse my family has the traditional "Boys don't cry(emotional)"...so seeking support from there was...not really helpful I guess

My mom has the best response though...but I feel the  "be grateful Jesus gave you a body" line doesn't work on me lol

 

...so lets do get over it together!

[godjira1]

My experience is that motivation is a poor master. U can be motivated a week, a month even, but you can't stay motivated all the time for any period beyond that and be sane. 

 

The magic is HABIT. Most people who have shed weight and kept it off will point to this. External validation etc all help a little but learn to do without it. 

 

My suggestion is (Example):

1) pick 1 extremely modest exercise goal. 10 wall pushups, 10 air squats. Twice a day. 6k steps (use your mobile if u dont have a fitbit or such). Do it for 30 days without failing. 

2) pick 1 modest diet goal. Like no liquid calories (ie no sodas, coffee or tea taken black) MON-FRI. And dont go nuts on weekends. Do it for a month without failing. 

 

Over time, improve the habits. Simple but not easy. But it has been done, so clearly it's possible. So good luck!

 

 

[Tamesis]

Welcome Lincoln! I look forward to seeing you around the forum! The NerdFitness community is an awesome one. I'm sure you'll find some good support and awesome people here!

[Plazmotic]

On 9/4/2017 at 8:09 AM, Lincoln_R1 said:

So yeah. I'm here for motivation. Honestly I don't know if I can find any. Anything I run by myself I counter or dismiss. Honestly, my bitterness  (brought on in part by my apparent lack of progress) is killing my fitness efforts. I can't stay motivated for more than a few hours. 

 

I totally get this, my motivation goes up and down depending on my mood. But godjira is right that habit beats motivation. I rarely want to work out, but I try to have this internal conversation:

 

Me: “I don’t wanna go, it’s cold and I’m tired and I want chicken wings.”

Imaginary Inner Gym Buddy who doesn’t take my crap: “Too bad. Go work out.”

Me: “Nooooo this sucks.”

Imaginary Inner Gym Buddy: “Yup.”

Me: “I hate working out.”

Imaginary Inner Gym Buddy: “I know. Keep complaining. Then do it anyway.”