Bekah Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Hey, all. Another asexual here just popping in after reading through a few pages, and glad to see I'm not the only one.Hi Quote Druid Assassin Halfling Druid Level 16, Current Quest: Bekah Returns Spoiler Fitbit Facebook Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change. - Jim Rohn Link to comment
Vella Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Thanks, guys. And I hope you are just as crazy, because I know I am. Oh, well, in that case, we're all good. It's cool, guys, we can stop pretending to be sane! Quote Previous challenges: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) Link to comment
Hit Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 sweet cuppin cakes! Quote It's the moose on the inside that counts. Link to comment
halixius Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Hi Hi! Oh, well, in that case, we're all good. It's cool, guys, we can stop pretending to be sane! Sanity is relative. Quote Level 0 Vampire Battle Log :: MFP :: Tumblr Link to comment
fleaball Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Thanks, guys. And I hope you are just as crazy, because I know I am.I think you'll fit in juuuust fine then. =P Quote Level 69 Battle Kitten Battle Log | Current Challenge MyFitnessPal | Fitbit | Duolingo Ici je vis la vie que j'ai choisie Je suis partie pour reconstruire ma vie C'est dit, c'est ainsi Link to comment
Twilight Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 I came out as poly and agender on Facebook over the last couple of weeks. So far, it's been a pretty positive response overall. Thinking about if I want to do the same at work ... 7 Quote Link to comment
Frost of the Gloaming Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 I would be careful with work because people are weird 3 Quote Between a rock and a hard place, use our finger nails to climb, it's all we know.......... Daily Mile Perfer et obdura: Dolor hic tibi proderit olim Link to comment
Ocelot Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 fantastic stuff Twilight! I really don't know what to say about work. I want to say go for it. People get used to it. You might have a hard time. But it might be better than being constantly misgendered, etc. Sending solidarity Quote | STR 15 | DEX 14 | STA 14 | CON 10.5 | WIS 11 | CHA 7 | Level 5 Ocelot's Dossier - Battle Log | Springing into my Sixth Challenge! Link to comment
Thrillho Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 I came out as 'not liking snowmobiling' at work, and I think a lot of people are still uncomfortable around me. Good luck! 4 Quote The cancer was aggressive, but the chemotherapy was aggressive, as well. There was aggression on both sides. Link to comment
Twilight Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Context for coming out at work: my company is one of Canada's Top 100 Employer's and consistently places well in LGBT and equality things. We have an LGBT Network, we have policies for people who want to transition while working here, there are company-approved places for people to talk about LGBT stuff, including transition, we have LGBT senior leaders, and one of the senior leaders is bi and poly. So I know that theoretically at least there's corporate-level support ... on paper. It's my coworkers that I have to see every day who really would have to decide if they were comfortable with it or not. 6 Quote Link to comment
ColoQ Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Context for coming out at work: my company is one of Canada's Top 100 Employer's and consistently places well in LGBT and equality things. We have an LGBT Network, we have policies for people who want to transition while working here, there are company-approved places for people to talk about LGBT stuff, including transition, we have LGBT senior leaders, and one of the senior leaders is bi and poly. So I know that theoretically at least there's corporate-level support ... on paper. It's my coworkers that I have to see every day who really would have to decide if they were comfortable with it or not.Wow.. the on paper aspects are impressive. 1 Quote ColoQ || Level: 0 Techno Troll || Assassin ========================= Current Challenge: 0 - V.2 Previous Challenges: , -------------------------------------------------- STR 0 || DEX 0 || STA 0 CON 0 || WIS 0 || CHA 0 -------------------------------------------------- Link to comment
Tkal Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 So I know that theoretically at least there's corporate-level support ... on paper. It's my coworkers that I have to see every day who really would have to decide if they were comfortable with it or not.If your company has on paper so much, most likely there will be also something like "if you don't agree with this, please leave". So if your colleagues are not comfortable it is their problem, not yours. I mean, if they cannot adjust and threat you with the respect you deserve as a human being, they are the ones in the wrong place. The decision about not speaking should be dictated by how a private person you are in general, not by how well they could adjust.But, again, I am transitioning at work, and very pragmatic about it. So my point is: you seems to be in a safe place (there are rules, and people enforcing them), so you should do what makes YOU AND ONLY YOU confortableIn any case, good luck 1 Quote Tkal, level 8 Dwarf assassin playing with the monksSTR 13.5 | DEX 19.25 | STA 16 | CON 18.75 | WIS 18 | CHA 14.5My walls (aka: random log) | Intro | Challenge 1 with tracker | Aborted Challenge 2 | "Real" challenge 2 | Challenge 3Challenge 4 | (never started)Challenge 5 | (super short) Challenge 5 | (third is a charm) Challenge 5 | Challenge 6Challenge 7 | Challenge 8 "Patience you must learn" Link to comment
Bekah Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Context for coming out at work: my company is one of Canada's Top 100 Employer's and consistently places well in LGBT and equality things. We have an LGBT Network, we have policies for people who want to transition while working here, there are company-approved places for people to talk about LGBT stuff, including transition, we have LGBT senior leaders, and one of the senior leaders is bi and poly. So I know that theoretically at least there's corporate-level support ... on paper. It's my coworkers that I have to see every day who really would have to decide if they were comfortable with it or not.wow. I think just talking about a company like that in America is illegal or something I hope it goes as well as you want it to and I'm glad your FB fam took it well 3 Quote Druid Assassin Halfling Druid Level 16, Current Quest: Bekah Returns Spoiler Fitbit Facebook Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change. - Jim Rohn Link to comment
Bekah Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 I came out as 'not liking snowmobiling' at work, and I think a lot of people are still uncomfortable around me. Good luck!You are just going through a phase Quote Druid Assassin Halfling Druid Level 16, Current Quest: Bekah Returns Spoiler Fitbit Facebook Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change. - Jim Rohn Link to comment
Twilight Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 wow. I think just talking about a company like that in America is illegal or something I hope it goes as well as you want it to and I'm glad your FB fam took it well We have a US parent, actually. They also score pretty highly for equality stuff, and include protections for LGBT people even when they aren't protected at the state level. The policies for people transitioning and the network covers both Canada and the US. 1 Quote Link to comment
Vella Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Twilight - Serious congrats for coming out over Facebook It sounds like your company is likely to be a pretty safe place to come out in, but yeah, even if there are steps that can be taken against coworkers, it's still a very awkward situation to put yourself in. If you go for it, good luck! 1 Quote Previous challenges: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) Link to comment
shaeon Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 I came out as poly and agender on Facebook over the last couple of weeks. So far, it's been a pretty positive response overall. Thinking about if I want to do the same at work ...Since your company is so progressive, I say go for it if it will put you more at ease to be out. When my company started offering domestic partner benefits and also made sexual orientation a protected status, I decided to come out because if I was out on paper (I was in a relationship at the time and started getting insurance for my partner), then I was going to be out to coworkers as well. I was pretty sure no one would care (I was right), but I also figured if someone was going to be a jerk about it then this was also my opportunity to stand up to them with the company backing me up. wow. I think just talking about a company like that in America is illegal or something I hope it goes as well as you want it to and I'm glad your FB fam took it well You might be surprised, Bekah. Not all workplaces are progressive, of course, but if they choose to be they can change a lot faster than laws do. HRC has a buyer's guide intended to inform people of where a number of companies weigh in on LGBT treatment in the workplace. It's intended to help you make informed decisions on where you may want to spend your money, of course, but you can just as easily use it to guide where you might apply for a job. HRC Buyer's Guide 2 Quote SHAEON Jedi Apprentice Druid Character Sheet Daily Battle Log: Shaeon Restores Balance to the Force Past Challenges: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 Current Challenge: Shaeon Focuses "With great boots comes great responsibility." Link to comment
Hit Posted January 15, 2015 Report Share Posted January 15, 2015 Given what you've said about your company, I don't think you'll run into any problems. Maybe write out a letter for your coworkers, and have an link-list for people to do further research if they ask questions? And also stipulate what exactly you will be doing / want from them. Sorta like "Hi im agender, which means [this] to me. In the future i will be doing [this] and you can support me by doing [this]. I would greatly appreciate it. If you have questions you can always come and ask me, but please check out the links below for the basics - [attach references]" 2 Quote It's the moose on the inside that counts. Link to comment
Ahyar Dreamspark Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 Context for coming out at work: my company is one of Canada's Top 100 Employer's and consistently places well in LGBT and equality things. We have an LGBT Network, we have policies for people who want to transition while working here, there are company-approved places for people to talk about LGBT stuff, including transition, we have LGBT senior leaders, and one of the senior leaders is bi and poly. So I know that theoretically at least there's corporate-level support ... on paper. It's my coworkers that I have to see every day who really would have to decide if they were comfortable with it or not. WHAT COMPANY IS THIS?? And, more importantly, are they hiring? Quote Link to comment
kaelvan Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 WHAT COMPANY IS THIS?? And, more importantly, are they hiring?I would so apply if I was in Canada And this is why I shouldn't be allowed on TumblrBecause dogs are awesome (though cats are cooler) 1 Quote “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.†~Paulo Coelho I'm a level 3 moon elf, who's an druid assassin. My InspirationTumblr, which helps me stay the course for art challengeFB, which I guess we could be friend My challengeInstagram Link to comment
Twilight Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 WHAT COMPANY IS THIS?? And, more importantly, are they hiring? Haha I can PM it to you if you'd really like to know. Considering what I share here, I will never ever ever ever ever write it out in a publicly-accessible place. :-p I would so apply if I was in Canada It's a US company and I'm part of the Canadian offices. Thanks guys. 2 Quote Link to comment
Artinum Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 Thanks, guys. And I hope you are just as crazy, because I know I am.Oh, we all float down here... Quote What happens when you play Final Fantasy VII with everyone called Cloud? It gets quite confusing... https://ff7crowdofclouds.wordpress.com/ Link to comment
ColoQ Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 Oh, we all float down here...NAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAOPE! *runs away* 2 Quote ColoQ || Level: 0 Techno Troll || Assassin ========================= Current Challenge: 0 - V.2 Previous Challenges: , -------------------------------------------------- STR 0 || DEX 0 || STA 0 CON 0 || WIS 0 || CHA 0 -------------------------------------------------- Link to comment
Twilight Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 ACK. BUNNY CHASER! 1 Quote Link to comment
Frost of the Gloaming Posted January 16, 2015 Report Share Posted January 16, 2015 I have a crush on Tim Curry..... Quote Between a rock and a hard place, use our finger nails to climb, it's all we know.......... Daily Mile Perfer et obdura: Dolor hic tibi proderit olim Link to comment
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