Reverberance Posted August 12, 2014 Report Share Posted August 12, 2014 Guys I need help. The O Levels results were published today, and my friend, who worked exceedingly hard didn't do as good as he expected to. Now he wants to suicide (He's the cleanest and nicest guy you'd ever come upon) and now he's completely broken down.He worked really hard, and now he wants to end his life.He thinks death is what he deserves.I need help ASAP. Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
Becoming-Bane Posted August 12, 2014 Report Share Posted August 12, 2014 http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org Quote In brightest day, In blackest night, No evil shall escape my sight, Let those who worship evils might, beware my power, GREEN LANTERNS LIGHT! Link to comment
Gwenhwyfar Posted August 12, 2014 Report Share Posted August 12, 2014 Call a local crisis center or your country's emergency number.Don't let him be alone and remove knives and any lethal objects.You may want to read some articles. http://m.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-preventionhttp://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/suicide/in-depth/suicide/art-20044707http://m.wikihow.com/Help-Someone-Who-Is-Thinking-About-Committing-Suicide 1 Quote <p>Gwenhwyfar, level 0 Wild elf adventurerSTR 0|DEX 0|STA 0|CON 0|WIS 0|CHA 0 Link to comment
Reverberance Posted August 12, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 12, 2014 Thanks for your replies, guys. I went to his home a few hours ago, he's a lot calmer now, and had my mother talk to his. I hope I've done everything under my power. 4 Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
redwoodfog Posted August 13, 2014 Report Share Posted August 13, 2014 You're a good friend! 1 Quote Link to comment
Reverberance Posted August 14, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 14, 2014 You're a good friend!Thank You, I try to be. Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
Gwenhwyfar Posted August 14, 2014 Report Share Posted August 14, 2014 Just keep an eye on your friend and make sure everything is okay! ^^He could be going through a lot that he can't handle on his own. 1 Quote <p>Gwenhwyfar, level 0 Wild elf adventurerSTR 0|DEX 0|STA 0|CON 0|WIS 0|CHA 0 Link to comment
NikaNika Posted August 14, 2014 Report Share Posted August 14, 2014 Sounds like he's judging himself pretty harshly, too harshly. Maybe do some activities that'll help widen perception so that a larger picture of life and being can be realized.... like... watch a sun rise or practice a 48-hour fast or something. Holding compassion towards the self, despite the negativity or pain being experienced, and taking on a phoenix spirit (rising from the ashes) attitude could do your friend well. Best of luck. 1 Quote Level 3 | Wood-Elf | Druid | Current ChallengeIntro. Lvl 1 Challenge. Lvl 2 Challenge. Lvl 3 Challenge. Link to comment
Reverberance Posted August 16, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 16, 2014 Just keep an eye on your friend and make sure everything is okay! ^^He could be going through a lot that he can't handle on his own. Thanks. I keep in contact with him throughout the day, to make sure he's okay or how he's doing. Sounds like he's judging himself pretty harshly, too harshly. Maybe do some activities that'll help widen perception so that a larger picture of life and being can be realized.... like... watch a sun rise or practice a 48-hour fast or something. Holding compassion towards the self, despite the negativity or pain being experienced, and taking on a phoenix spirit (rising from the ashes) attitude could do your friend well. Best of luck. He's improved a lot by now. The suicidal thoughts have left, or he doesn't talk about them. He once told me that he doesn't feel like suicide anymore, he just wants to run away. He's going to retry in October and he's going to start studying for it, which is a good sign, I hope. Thanks again for posting here. Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
NikaNika Posted August 16, 2014 Report Share Posted August 16, 2014 Thanks. I keep in contact with him throughout the day, to make sure he's okay or how he's doing. He's improved a lot by now. The suicidal thoughts have left, or he doesn't talk about them. He once told me that he doesn't feel like suicide anymore, he just wants to run away. He's going to retry in October and he's going to start studying for it, which is a good sign, I hope. Thanks again for posting here. Wanting to run away is still a strong emotion, but it isn't as permanent as suicide, so I'd say it's an improvement too. As long as he doesn't wrap all of his emotions up into the October retry and repeats the pattern, because if he doesn't do well a second time and hasn't addressed his (sub)conscious reasons for his reaction to the first test results, those emotions are sure to come up again and might be even more powerful than the first time. On the other hand, focusing on a later point in time like October might help lift him out of overwhelming emotions by focusing his energies Keeping in contact and taking it by a day-to-day basis is a supportive way to go about it, you seem like a good friend. Again, best of luck. 1 Quote Level 3 | Wood-Elf | Druid | Current ChallengeIntro. Lvl 1 Challenge. Lvl 2 Challenge. Lvl 3 Challenge. Link to comment
Hanksdottir Posted August 18, 2014 Report Share Posted August 18, 2014 One of the real danger signs is when they stop talking, altogether.The real danger sign is when there is "NO sound in the forest"If he was just bummed, and letting off steam, there is hope.good luck, God bless, and keep your perspective. 3 Quote ADVENTURER now Link to comment
Reverberance Posted August 18, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wanting to run away is still a strong emotion, but it isn't as permanent as suicide, so I'd say it's an improvement too. As long as he doesn't wrap all of his emotions up into the October retry and repeats the pattern, because if he doesn't do well a second time and hasn't addressed his (sub)conscious reasons for his reaction to the first test results, those emotions are sure to come up again and might be even more powerful than the first time. On the other hand, focusing on a later point in time like October might help lift him out of overwhelming emotions by focusing his energies Keeping in contact and taking it by a day-to-day basis is a supportive way to go about it, you seem like a good friend. Again, best of luck.One of the real danger signs is when they stop talking, altogether.The real danger sign is when there is "NO sound in the forest"If he was just bummed, and letting off steam, there is hope.good luck, God bless, and keep your perspective. Thank You, guys, for the advice. He's almost back to his old self. And we're talking regularly, and he doesnt bring up neither the topic of suicide, nor the topic of running away. We talk about studies, and other stuffs that we used to talk about. I dont really know if I am doing it right, but I think things are improving. 1 Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
Fearkiller Posted September 10, 2014 Report Share Posted September 10, 2014 How's your friend doing?How are you doing? 1 Quote "There is beauty in hardship / There are poems in grief" -Assemblage 23, Damaged | STR:2.25 | DEX:2.25 | STA:2 | CON:1.25 | CHA:3.25 | WIS:7 | A place I will collect my woots - if I remember Challenges | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 15.1 | 15.2 | Milythaels' HOoRAY for which I am grateful | Today, right now, I am alive. And that is good. It is amazing the power of those small gestures of love and kindness have on our lives. <3 - Liberator "I myself am made entirely of flaws, stiched together with good intentions." - Augusten Burroughs, Magical thinking:True stories "Pick up the pieces and keep going, one painfully slow step at a time." - Hiraedd the twice-risen, hamadryad. "Spread love and understanding. Use force if necessary." - Leon Trotsky "Let me think about the people I care about the most, and when they fail or disappoint me, I still love them, I still give them chances, and I still see the best in them. Let me extend that generosity to myself." zefrank1, An Invocation for Beginnings "I don't feel guilty for wanting. That's like being mad because you have to breathe or pee. It just is." Someone in Reddit "If you do strange things, strange things will happen!" "That's it! Now go make something beautiful." -Jake Parker Link to comment
Steppinon D'Arrows Posted September 10, 2014 Report Share Posted September 10, 2014 Glad to hear that things are going well! Many people do better in their studies and schoolwork than in their tests. It could be because they feel more pressure or stress during it or it could be any number of factors including the time of the day and energy levels. That's why we shouldn't cram or study all night the night before the test, just a review would do, but go to bed early and eat a good, healthful breakfast in the morning. Other things, such as mnemonics, can help with remembering facts and figures. 1 Quote Calorie Counting/ Nutrition Tracking for a year on MyFitnessPal+Fitbit One (365 days = .27% per day, Day 74): 19.98%19.98% New Year's Resolution - Healthy Weight/BMI for Summer (June 1st, Get to about 130 lbs/22 BMI approx. in 152 days/21 weeks starting from 153 lbs = 4.35% per pound, currently 142): 47.85%47.85% Graduate Culinary School {20% per section: F.O.H. ( A ), Hot Foods ( C ), Garde Manger [Cold Foods], Bakeshop, Test} Passed Certifications: ServSafe, Management 40%40% Fitbit, MyFitnessPalIntro Challenges: 1 2 Reset 3 Link to comment
Dleffe Posted September 10, 2014 Report Share Posted September 10, 2014 I'd just like to add one thing, for future reference. If someone is serious about commiting suicide, really truly serious, a forum won't respond fast enough to be any real help. He still needed help and it turned out okay, but next time in such a situation you should just look up the number of the suicide hotline, not only is it faster but they're also trained for these situations. But glad to hear it worked out. 3 Quote Link to comment
Candace Koller Posted September 12, 2014 Report Share Posted September 12, 2014 If it's ever an emergency you should call 911 (or your country's equivalent). Better to have your friend go to a hospital than end it all, even if they do get mad at you. 2 Quote Goal weight: 135 lbs (61.2 kg), Starting weight: 200 lbs (90.7 kg)Current Weight: 196.6 lbs (89.2 kg) 5.2%5.2% Battle Log | ChallengeThe chronicles of my journey through mental illness.The Stories Not ToldBreak the silence. Fight the stigmas. Don't be afraid to ask for help.Level 2 Half-Elf|STR| 4 |DEX| 3 |STA| 2 |CON| 4 |WIS| 9 |CHA| 5 Link to comment
Reverberance Posted November 11, 2014 Author Report Share Posted November 11, 2014 This is a very late reply, I haven't been online for quite a long time. Sorry about that. How's your friend doing?How are you doing? We both are doing great now. Thanks for asking Glad to hear that things are going well! Many people do better in their studies and schoolwork than in their tests. It could be because they feel more pressure or stress during it or it could be any number of factors including the time of the day and energy levels. That's why we shouldn't cram or study all night the night before the test, just a review would do, but go to bed early and eat a good, healthful breakfast in the morning. Other things, such as mnemonics, can help with remembering facts and figures. That's some good advice. I'll try to convey them and use them personally as well. Thanks I'd just like to add one thing, for future reference. If someone is serious about commiting suicide, really truly serious, a forum won't respond fast enough to be any real help. He still needed help and it turned out okay, but next time in such a situation you should just look up the number of the suicide hotline, not only is it faster but they're also trained for these situations. But glad to hear it worked out. Yeah, that was quite stupid of me. I'll remember that if something happens like that again (though I hope not). If it's ever an emergency you should call 911 (or your country's equivalent). Better to have your friend go to a hospital than end it all, even if they do get mad at you. Yes, I could live that. Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
kaelvan Posted November 11, 2014 Report Share Posted November 11, 2014 That's good to hear you and your friend are doing bit better. 1 Quote “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.†~Paulo Coelho I'm a level 3 moon elf, who's an druid assassin. My InspirationTumblr, which helps me stay the course for art challengeFB, which I guess we could be friend My challengeInstagram Link to comment
Reverberance Posted November 12, 2014 Author Report Share Posted November 12, 2014 That's good to hear you and your friend are doing bit better.Thanks a lot 1 Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
Taajsgpm Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 You need to act immidiately , if you wait you could lose him , call family and friends and if needed contact the proper authorities , you dont want to live with the regret of not dong everything in your power to save a life , GO NOW 1 Quote Link to comment
Reverberance Posted December 10, 2014 Author Report Share Posted December 10, 2014 You need to act immidiately , if you wait you could lose him , call family and friends and if needed contact the proper authorities , you dont want to live with the regret of not dong everything in your power to save a life , GO NOW Thanks for that. Actually, this post is from August, but if it makes a difference, I did exactly that. And I'm glad, because he did not suicide, and I'm glad I acted then. Quote Level 3 Minotaur Assassin in training In the process of metamorphosis to Dunmer STR 8| DEX 4| STA 6| CON 5| WIS 4| CHA 3| 0.1 0.5 0.3 0.3 0.5 0.4 Spoiler "Hold on, the weight of the world will give you the strength to go." "War Never Changes. Men do, through the roads they walk." "With great power, there must also come great responsibility." Link to comment
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