Introverts, Social Misfits and the Terror of Talking to People

[Yraen]

I'M NOT A HIPSTER!! I hate trends and stuff like that. I don't do things because they're ironic. I dress the the I dress because I like clothes like that. Some of mine shouldn't really count anyways. I haven't worn a hoody in over a year, and I've only worn a beanie two of three times in the same span.

And Machete, if you see a six foot guy with a beard wearing a blue trench coat coming your way, run.

[Artinum]

"I got hips but I'm not a hipster..."

Wait, that's not how the song goes...

[sisustrong]

This thread speaks to me on a number of levels. 

 

I've always been the "shy" one. Introverted, even family gatherings (and my family isn't that large) are exhausting. I have to take a break from conversation every half hour to go sit by myself. I usually need a nap afterward!

 

I'm diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (emphasis on the social anxiety) and with depression on top of that, well... a slip up in a conversation used to be agonizing. I'd berate myself for days over it. But with time, counseling, medication, and practice, I can now carry on conversations with strangers if necessary, and generally come off as confident and put-together, even when my insides are screaming. I can more easily forgive myself for any perceived "mistakes" I make, too, which is helpful. I don't generally seek out social activities, though.

 

I've had a few friends with Aspergers say that they suspect I might have it too, but I haven't sought out a diagnosis or anything. I have the classic troubles with reading people and understanding social cues, which has oddly enough made me extremely perceptive of subtle changes in body language and tone of voice. I guess being forced to learn those things through trial and error has made me better than your average bear at understanding how people feel without them saying so. Being an empath helps, too, heh. I have weird triggers too, certain sounds, textures, tastes... I have to eat my food a certain way in proportion to other types of food on my plate. It can be amusing for people who don't know me, haha.

 

I'm an INFJ, if that's helpful.

[Elastigirl]

I guess we have an update

 

Hipster Bingo ranking

 

1. Machete (13)

2. tyrsnbdr (6)

3. Sjard (4)

4. Rurik the Ranger (3)

5. Jakkals (2)

 

All Hail the new lord of NF Hipsters, All Hail Machete!

thought of this thread this weekend. On the lake front the life guard was wearing plaid shorts, had an ear gauge, and yes, even had the beanie (even though it was 90 degrees out) To be a true hipster, I think you need to wear the beanie in summer, and the shorts in winter.

[SjardisDead]

Can I call you God now? 

LOL! 

I am NOT a hipster, I had one thing on the entire board (apple product), and its only bc I cant learn new technology worth a shit

 

No better not, I don't want to have stupid people do shitty things in my name. But thank you for the offer.

 

Plaid

Beard

Hoodie(less so nowadays)

Beanie(very rarely)

Apple products(I got them cheap)

Thin framed black glasses

Call me a hipster and I will find you and smack you so hard that if you have a beard it will fly off your face, and if you don't you'll grow one.

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I'M NOT A HIPSTER!! I hate trends and stuff like that. I don't do things because they're ironic. I dress the the I dress because I like clothes like that. Some of mine shouldn't really count anyways. I haven't worn a hoody in over a year, and I've only worn a beanie two of three times in the same span.

And Machete, if you see a six foot guy with a beard wearing a blue trench coat coming your way, run.

 

I give you eight points, including the two bonus points for fulfilling the "Being a Hipster who hates to be called a hipster" cliche perfectly.

 

 

Hipster Bingo ranking

 

1. Machete (13)

2. Yraen of the Engwar (8)

3. tyrsnbdr (6)

4. Sjard (4)

5. Rurik the Ranger (3)

5. Jakkals (2)

[Bekah]

No better not, I don't want to have stupid people do shitty things in my name. But thank you for the offer.

My bad, I should have clarified that I meant to call Machete God, since he is the Lord Hipster...lol

but your reponse is beautiful

[Yraen]

Correct me if I'm wrong but hipsters tend to be very left leaning when it comes to politics. And to always try to have the latest thing in fashion or whatever. I'm the exact opposite.

[Sloth the Enduring]

My hipster niece is a conceal carry advocate that waves a confederate flag. And hipsters all look the same by trying to avoid the latest fashions. I think it's time to accept it and wear a beanie all summer.

[Machete]

I'M NOT A HIPSTER!! I hate trends and stuff like that. I don't do things because they're ironic. I dress the the I dress because I like clothes like that. Some of mine shouldn't really count anyways. I haven't worn a hoody in over a year, and I've only worn a beanie two of three times in the same span.

And Machete, if you see a six foot guy with a beard wearing a blue trench coat coming your way, run.

 

I don't run. I hate cardio. Besides, you promised me a beard. I need to fill out all the boxes. (Besides the bicycle, because I don't know how to ride one. I didn't learn because everyone else was doing it. Ironic irony.)

[Rurik Harrgath]

thought of this thread this weekend. On the lake front the life guard was wearing plaid shorts, had an ear gauge, and yes, even had the beanie (even though it was 90 degrees out) To be a true hipster, I think you need to wear the beanie in summer, and the shorts in winter.

 

Ah, hell.  +1

 

I strongly dislike hats though.  It takes a bloody cold day in winter to get a beanie (or toque, since I'm from Canuckistan) on my head, but when I do... again, I turn to plaid.

[Yraen]

I love hats. Seriously. I own almost as many hats as I do pairs of pants. Though I tend to prefer fedoras and trilbies over other types.

[SjardisDead]

[Sloth the Enduring]

That pic makes a lot of sense; I'm the guy second from the left.

Apple Product

Bicycle

[Br0din]

thought of this thread this weekend. On the lake front the life guard was wearing plaid shorts, had an ear gauge, and yes, even had the beanie (even though it was 90 degrees out) To be a true hipster, I think you need to wear the beanie in summer, and the shorts in winter.

 

I wear shorts during the winter...  I probably shouldn't as it drops to a freezing cold low 60s(f) here.  I should be wearing snowboots and puffy jackets like the others.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong but hipsters tend to be very left leaning when it comes to politics. And to always try to have the latest thing in fashion or whatever. I'm the exact opposite.

 

Maybe...  but I think its more of the new anti-establishment/cool/in with a knack to create a thing and make it cool(er)  like craft beer guy.  But as soon as everyone likes craft beer...  they have to move on to craft whiskey (or whatever.)

 

Apple products get associated with everything.  Every hipster has an iphone, but so does every #basicbitch.  Some how Apple marketing has made their products invulnerable to the negative aspects of every niche.   

 

I find it funny that I'm 3rd in the hipster bingo...  I look like I belong more at a golf tournament than an indy concert at a brewery.  

[Rurik Harrgath]

 

According to this, the closest approximation for me would be the plaid-clad gent fourth from the left... minus the banjo.  I'm not musically-oriented at all.

 

Oh, and my glasses aren't those black-rimmed spectacles commonly associated with hipster legend.  They're just plain jane eyeball helpers.

[Yraen]

I find it shocking that I'm second. I look more like I belong in an Indiana Jones movie. Or maybe 24.

I don't prefer apple products I bought an iPad of my drunk uncle real cheap. And I don't have an iPhone, I just started carrying a cell phone this year and it's an old flip phone.

As for beer or whiskey, I don't drink and I never plan to.

On the picture Sjard put up I have the hair of the first guy, general style of the second guy, the fourth guys boots, beard of the fifth, and a hat similar to the sixth. also a guitar.

[Machete]

I find it preposterous that I am first. I look like I belong in a soup kitchen for deranged homeless samurai... Wait... Yeah, that makes sense. I'm probably the guy whom the unicorn guy at the end is calling a hipster.

 

But yeah, there's really no clear-cut definition right now. I think it's just a derogatory statement generally used to describe a set of annoying behaviors that everyone is more or less prone to. I believe everyone is a little bit of a hipster; we just become more hipster by trying to deny it.

[Br0din]

But yeah, there's really no clear-cut definition right now. I think it's just a derogatory statement generally used to describe a set of annoying behaviors that everyone is more or less prone to. I believe everyone is a little bit of a hipster; we just become more hipster by trying to deny it.

 

Just like beatnic and yuppie and hippie and....

[Silo]

Just like beatnic and yuppie and hippie and....

 

This reminds me of when my husband turned to me and asked "What do they call them? You know the people with skinny jeans and giant glasses? Birthers? Is that right?" 

 

I spent all of Tuesday and Wednesday in an IT project management workshop (agile & scrum.) Too much togetherness with other people. Plus during one of the hands on exercises, my task was to start a side conversation, which meant I had to just start talking to somebody I didn't know while interrupting the group. I would like to spend the next 24 hours in complete silence, alone.

[Rurik Harrgath]

According to this overpaid, ink-stained, wannabe journalist, there's a new breed in town:  http://mashable.com/2015/06/09/post-hipster-yuccie/

 

It kind of fills me with rage/despair that people have nothing better to do than write crap like this.  We live in sad times, my friends.

[Doe]

Fellow introvert checking in.

My job says I need to work on my communication skills I

thought that getting in a technical field I really wouldn't need communication skills! What a ripoff

[Jakkals]

According to this overpaid, ink-stained, wannabe journalist, there's a new breed in town:  http://mashable.com/2015/06/09/post-hipster-yuccie/

 

It kind of fills me with rage/despair that people have nothing better to do than write crap like this.  We live in sad times, my friends.

 

I am extremely proud of myself. I read the title in that link and then trusted your recommendation and didn't click on it

 

 

Fellow introvert checking in.

My job says I need to work on my communication skills I

thought that getting in a technical field I really wouldn't need communication skills! What a ripoff

 

The main trouble with working in a technical field is that you have to communicate with people who are not technical people. 

[Doe]

The main trouble with working in a technical field is that you have to communicate with people who are not technical people.

True, I used to teach senior citizens how to use Facebook and excel for job trainees so I can't be that horrible.

I just work in an office with many extroverts and usually they talk over me or never take a breath -can't get in a word edgewise. One on one with clients or teaching I do ok. But when I'm with another person they'll almost do all the talking. It's a vicious cyclebecause I don't get a lot of one-on-one time until I can prove that I can do things in front of somebody els eand sometimes it's hard to say to somebody let me take the lead, if I need you I'll ask.

[TMedina]

I read that as "a vicious cycle-babble".  Very fitting.

[Dusk]

I feel ya on the people-talking-over-you thing, Doe. I'm a very quiet person, so when I'm talking with someone - doesn't matter what about - I'll almost always get steamrolled right over. It happens in groups, it happens one-on-one... I've gotten used to it at this point and just let the people talk. Sometimes I talk over them in return, if I'm sick of being interrupted - I'll just finish my sentence while staring into their soul. And even that doesn't work with any consistency - usually they still keep talking. Some people looooove talking.

 

 

(sorry about the rant; that's just something I've been particulary aware/sensitive of lately )