Spark Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 @.@ Caaaat.... I'm a straight male Spark, but I consider myself an ally, so checking in! Also I tend to write a lot of smut with gender-bending themes. Make of it what you will. 2 Quote Level 10 Superhero Trainee (Ranger)Str 20 Dex 12 Sta 15 Con 15 Wis 13 Cha 16 My Battle Log: Getting Back on the HorseChallenges! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10NerFiWriCh Completed: 1! My book! The Mercenary's Guide to Ruined Seattle. To all you saints and sinners!You losers and you winners!Here's to one more day above the roses! Link to comment
RES Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 Also I tend to write a lot of smut with gender-bending themes. Make of it what you will. ohhhhhhhhh...my fav Quote RES...and I want to live days worth dying for Current: RES: Life is not Always SET Spoiler Really Eclectic Scorpio, Level 87 |1|2|3|4|5|6|7|8|9|10|11|12|13|14|15|16|17|18|19|20|21|22|23|24|25|26|27|28|29|30|31|32|33|34|35|36|37|38|39|40|41|42|43|44|45|46|47|48|49|50|51|52|53|54|55|56|57|58|59|60|61|62|63|64|65|66|67|68|69|70|71|72|73|74|75|76|77|78|79|80|81|82|83|84|85|86|87|88|89|90|91|92| | My Character Page | Tracking Spreadsheet | My Blog | Growth happens when you care more about the well being of your future self than the comfort of your present self! "Pass on what you have learned. Strength, mastery. But weakness, folly, failure also. Yes, failure most of all. The greatest teacher, failure is." -Yoda Link to comment
mjwallenburg Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Hey, everyone! Just wanted to drop a line and say, "hi... I'm Mike." I'm new to NF and must say that the more that I explore it the more I love it - a gay (well, LGBTQIA) forum... how awesome! A big part of the reason I have always hesitated with respect to getting in shape is because I felt that the gym environment would not be too accepting or warm an environment. Then again, part of that is just me always looking for a way to isolate or differentiate myself from others. I dunno... it's kind of hard to explain, but maybe you can relate. Either way, I'm glad to have found NF, this forum, and to get started on my goals. I'm currently working on a six-week challenge and if you are, too, I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors. 7 Quote Race: Half-Elf Class: Ranger in Training Level: 0 STR: 0 DEX: 0 STA: 0 CON: 0 WIS: 0 CHA: 0 Current Six Week Challengehttp://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/topic/45575-mjwallenburg-is-always-late-but-its-better-than-never/ Battle Log for Six Week Challengehttp://rebellion.nerdfitness.com/index.php?/topic/45668-mjwallenburgs-battle-log-for-6-week-challenge/ Link to comment
SevenofSeven Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Hey Mike,Welcome! 1 Quote Wait! What............? Link to comment
Teirin Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Hi Mike, welcome in :-) Lots of people are nervous about joining a gym for various reasons and that's one of the big ones. No worries! It looks like you're settling into bodyweight training and it's starting well for you. 1 Quote Behave yourself, badly if necessary. Current Challenge Judo - Shodan My Character Link to comment
SpecialSundae Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Just checking in because apparently I haven't before! Bisexual female, occasional activist and drag queen in a woman's body. ;-) 3 Quote Link to comment
Teirin Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Just checking in because apparently I haven't before! Bisexual female, occasional activist and drag queen in a woman's body. ;-) And Doctor Who fan too :-) Hi! Quote Behave yourself, badly if necessary. Current Challenge Judo - Shodan My Character Link to comment
Frost of the Gloaming Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 :asexual rant: Why is it when a girl is nice, she's just being nice, but when a guy is nice people automatically think that he wants to get in your pants. I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR NAUGHTY BITS PEOPLE!!!!! 2 Quote Between a rock and a hard place, use our finger nails to climb, it's all we know.......... Daily Mile Perfer et obdura: Dolor hic tibi proderit olim Link to comment
Jittersthe.Clown Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 :asexual rant: Why is it when a girl is nice, she's just being nice, but when a guy is nice people automatically think that he wants to get in your pants. I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR NAUGHTY BITS PEOPLE!!!!!Thank you! I get that quite a bit because I am a nice guy and like to be helpful. Quote Level 2 Warforged Druid STR: 2, DEX: 1, STA: 3, CON: 3, WIS: 2, CHA: 3 "If these people tell this story to their children as they sleep; then maybe someday they'll see a hero is just a man who knows he is free." Good night and joy be to you all ~Jitters The. Clown Current Challange: New Challenges Ahead! Battle Log: Clowning around daily Past Challenges: Leveling Up PvP Jump Rope Boss Continue? System Failure Systems Online Calling Rush Confirm Reset Select World Select Difficulty, Select Character, Repairs, Press Start, First Timer, Jump Rope PVP Challenge Link to comment
Teirin Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 :asexual rant: Why is it when a girl is nice, she's just being nice, but when a guy is nice people automatically think that he wants to get in your pants. I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR NAUGHTY BITS PEOPLE!!!!! *internet near-stranger hugs* We girls get it to some extent as well, but yeah. It's got to be extra difficult to be a guy ace. Quote Behave yourself, badly if necessary. Current Challenge Judo - Shodan My Character Link to comment
mukimono Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 . Quote Level 1 Awkward Robot ----- Currently on first challenge |||| STR -- 2 || DEX -- 1 || STA -- 1 || CON -- 2 || WIS -- 3 || CHA -- 1 |||| Link to comment
ColoQ Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 This is my support face: =) . I grok the feeling. As a Bi guy, who is generally warm, and affectionate (hugs, handshakes, boisterous humor etc..), When a straight guy finds out that I'm Bi, I always have to deal with some awkwardness as they suddenly process "was that hug ColoQ hitting on me?" I almost want to yell "Don't flatter yourself!" in their face. Probably cause our culture thinks all men are obsessed with sex?Plus many/most girls have at some point or another had a "friend" who really did want to get into their pants, hence the "Nice Guy" stereotype.That is the newest bit of Tumblr feminist memes that is just kinda of a frustrating ball of lunacy. But it sums up in a grossly over simplified way a complex issue: which is what memes are good for, I guess. (Do I get a complimentary Fedora now? I look terrible in them.) There are predatory, entitled ladies who masquerade as nice girls too: so is it a problem of gender inequality (Men feel entitled), or select individuals are Jerky JerkBags? *internet near-stranger hugs* We girls get it to some extent as well, but yeah. It's got to be extra difficult to be a guy ace. The difference is that. when someone misinterprets niceness as sexual interest, the girl is much more likely to be assaulted. Either sexually or in the infamous lady-chess play of "This is *MY* Man/Woman." Quote ColoQ || Level: 0 Techno Troll || Assassin ========================= Current Challenge: 0 - V.2 Previous Challenges: , -------------------------------------------------- STR 0 || DEX 0 || STA 0 CON 0 || WIS 0 || CHA 0 -------------------------------------------------- Link to comment
mukimono Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 .. 1 Quote Level 1 Awkward Robot ----- Currently on first challenge |||| STR -- 2 || DEX -- 1 || STA -- 1 || CON -- 2 || WIS -- 3 || CHA -- 1 |||| Link to comment
ColoQ Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Alsooo... a lot of straight girls think all lesbians are predatory. Coming out to friends kind of sucked given that. My crush (who does not know I have a crush on her) is terrified of the idea of me liking her. Ladies do have to deal with a bit more predation / objectification and as a result have to be on guard. I wonder if the "fear" is based more out of not wanting to feel uncomfortable. Maybe her perception is that hanging out "with the girls" is somehow safer than hanging out around dudes. Meaning that now you are somehow violating that social contract. Never mind you didn't agree to that implicit statement: and never mind that you aren't actually knocking her over the head to drag her back to your cave all neanderthal style. I came up with a concept that puts folks like that at ease. The "No-Touch" list. It is asinine: but I literally tell people "You are on the No-Touch list. Meaning that even if the opportunity presented itself and you are willing, I would not act on it." That calms the situation some. Usually. Assuming you still want to be friends with her, even if you cant get with her. Quote ColoQ || Level: 0 Techno Troll || Assassin ========================= Current Challenge: 0 - V.2 Previous Challenges: , -------------------------------------------------- STR 0 || DEX 0 || STA 0 CON 0 || WIS 0 || CHA 0 -------------------------------------------------- Link to comment
mukimono Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 . 1 Quote Level 1 Awkward Robot ----- Currently on first challenge |||| STR -- 2 || DEX -- 1 || STA -- 1 || CON -- 2 || WIS -- 3 || CHA -- 1 |||| Link to comment
SpecialSundae Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 :asexual rant: Why is it when a girl is nice, she's just being nice, but when a guy is nice people automatically think that he wants to get in your pants. I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR NAUGHTY BITS PEOPLE!!!!! Because when girls are being nice they aren't always being nice. ;-) I think people struggle with the concept of asexuality because it has seldom been spoken about. Quote Link to comment
ColoQ Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 Because when girls are being nice they aren't always being nice. ;-) I think people struggle with the concept of asexuality because it has seldom been spoken about. I admit that I struggle with the concept myself. Not that I don't understand it. I do: In the same way a 5th grade science student "understands" molecules (Its a thing, people have seen it, they have X vaguely defined properties ...ect). I just can't wrap my emotional brain around it. I couldn't put myself into an Asexual Person's shoes, I guess. That said, everyone deserves respect and representation. 2 Quote ColoQ || Level: 0 Techno Troll || Assassin ========================= Current Challenge: 0 - V.2 Previous Challenges: , -------------------------------------------------- STR 0 || DEX 0 || STA 0 CON 0 || WIS 0 || CHA 0 -------------------------------------------------- Link to comment
SevenofSeven Posted March 13, 2014 Report Share Posted March 13, 2014 I think people these days read too much into simple interaction. Maybe because some of them are just plain desperate, and any niceness is construed as flirting/hitting on them. They cannot just take a comment or action as just you being nice. Sad really. Quote Wait! What............? Link to comment
Rassidan Posted March 14, 2014 Report Share Posted March 14, 2014 I think people these days read too much into simple interaction. Maybe because some of them are just plain desperate, and any niceness is construed as flirting/hitting on them. They cannot just take a comment or action as just you being nice. Sad really. You missed the part about being to insecure about themselves. Actually if they were more secure then a simple hug or interaction wouldn't need to be analyzed to death as something more. Granted I do enjoy the look on peoples faces when one of my gay friends hugs them and it is clear as day that they are not sure if they are being hit on or not. The one rule they really need to consider is not everyone wants you no matter what you think. Indecure people making my day more entertaining. 1 Quote What we are born with, we must make our ownOr it remains a mere appurtenance.-Faust Link to comment
SevenofSeven Posted March 14, 2014 Report Share Posted March 14, 2014 I find most blokey, blokes are the ones who fear being hit on by gay men the most, with comments like "I'll punch his fucking head in if he touched me", on more than one occasion I have asked why they think a gay man would want them when even the females avoid them and they can't find or keep a girlfriend.................oh that's right you're an asshole! Ignorance is the bane of society. 3 Quote Wait! What............? Link to comment
Rassidan Posted March 14, 2014 Report Share Posted March 14, 2014 I find most blokey, blokes are the ones who fear being hit on by gay men the most, with comments like "I'll punch his fucking head in if he touched me", on more than one occasion I have asked why they think a gay man would want them when even the females avoid them and they can't find or keep a girlfriend.................oh that's right you're an asshole!Ignorance is the bane of society. Isn't that about the truth. I believe that is why the wizards first rule can exist. "People are stupid; given proper motivation, almost anyone will believe almost anything. Because people are stupid, they will believe a lie because they want to believe it's true, or because they are afraid it might be true. People's heads are full of knowledge, facts, and beliefs, and most of it is false, yet they think it all true. People are stupid; they can only rarely tell the difference between a lie and the truth, and yet they are confident they can, and so are all the easier to fool." Quote What we are born with, we must make our ownOr it remains a mere appurtenance.-Faust Link to comment
robozebra Posted March 14, 2014 Report Share Posted March 14, 2014 Aromantic asexual lady checking in here for the first time to say hey!My two cents on the current discussion: I think, at least in Western culture (or at least in America, I can't speak for anywhere else), there's a belief that women are just "supposed" to be nice and friendly while men are "supposed" to be closed off and distant. So if a women is really nice she's just doing what ladies do while if a guy is really nice he must have some kind of ulterior motive or whatever. Also people are just generally shitty for no reason sometimes. To be fair, women do get this to an extant, I have certainly had lovely and in my mind innocent conversations with people only to later be told how flirtatious I was being or something dumb like that, but I am sure men get it much more. And that also might just be my own complete ignorance on any kind of romantic/sexual interactions so I don't realize when things go from friendly to something else. *sigh* I just think people make interactions overly complicated sometimes, especially between people of different genders. 2 Quote Current challenge: Respawn Time! Link to comment
Frost of the Gloaming Posted March 14, 2014 Report Share Posted March 14, 2014 Thanks all, I just needed to vent Q it's alright I don't understand you guys either lol, really I can't explain it myself other than I don't look at anyone and automatically think "Oh I want to get them naked" but rather I wonder who/what they are and would rather much connect on an emotional level than a physical one; much to the confusion of some people in college where we would go on dates like 3-4 maybe have a kiss or two and then me being "Hey you are awesome but.....lets be friends" which I'm actually still friends with 90% of. Quote Between a rock and a hard place, use our finger nails to climb, it's all we know.......... Daily Mile Perfer et obdura: Dolor hic tibi proderit olim Link to comment
Artinum Posted March 14, 2014 Report Share Posted March 14, 2014 Aromantic asexual lady checking in here for the first time to say hey! Hello you gorgeous little cutie you! I could just hug you and hug you and never let you go! ...sorry, I was distracted by the cat in your picture. Hello, robozebra. Quote What happens when you play Final Fantasy VII with everyone called Cloud? It gets quite confusing... https://ff7crowdofclouds.wordpress.com/ Link to comment
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