[deftona]

An UPDATE

 

I've been pretty tired these last few days. Work is a lot. It's going to get a lotter. I have started to take regular screen breaks and add in some booty moves throughout the day, firstly to keep myself from going mad but secondly because I have never lost sight of my goal of having a hench arse, and also it does my back good. That has been my only exercise but it's because I can't bring myself to get up early to hit the gym and I am so tired after work I can't face it. I can't even face doing the leisure stuff after work. I mostly just sit there pointing my eyes at some very light entertainment. I think this period will just be about getting through it. They say there is something in the pipeline but my job is so specialised you can't just train someone from scratch and set them off. It takes months to become truly competent. But it's someone else's job to worry about this so I just won't. 

 

In terms of the wedding, things are ticking along. I have ordered my dress now and I got an email this morning they have started to make it. I adore it, I just hope it's as nice as it seems. Always an issue when you order from online however I wanted a black one and they're like rocking horse shit. I do have a back up meatspace dress from a local bridal shop but I am very invested in this black one. I have also found my wedding ring and I am choosing between two hair and makeup ladies for the day. I booked my car in for new tyres and a full service because I barely drive it but it has to get us to Scotland so I thought I had better. Just need to fill in the marriage notice stuff and get that sent off, but I am waiting for something to come through the post from D_R before that can happen.

 

Proud of myself for getting this stuff done. 

 

Food has been fine, I am eating to a good deficit even without the extra activity although Fitbit for some reason have me 700 exercise calories yesterday when I spent the work day sitting on my ass and my evening stewing in the bath so unless I am doing sleep burpees, I think there's a fault with it. I have maintained my weight for a few days though which is quite annoying, but I can feel changes going on in my body. 

 

 

 

[sarakingdom]

33 minutes ago, deftona said:

Where can I donate.

 

While the HWF is an excellent organization, don't overlook local haggis sanctuaries! They do great work rehabilitating injured and orphaned haggis. It's not the flashy work that brings in big donors, just the daily dedication of local volunteers.

[Jarric]

13 hours ago, deftona said:

Deftona McGreeklastname has a ring to it. 

 

You should 100% change your forum username to this when you get married

 

[DarK_RaideR]

11 hours ago, Jarric said:

You should 100% change your forum username to this when you get married

DeF_TonA

[deftona]

Oh wow, when I am last on the list of most recently updated challenges this challenge cycle I know it's time for an update. 

 

My last update was Saturday and since then I haven't really done much. I haven't trained at all because I find it hard to get out of bed in the morning. I really should though, it would probably do me good. Food has been ok. I haven't been enjoying eating so I have been eating what I have in the freezer and not getting excited about it but it's fuel and that's all it has to be sometimes. I have been getting on very well with my cat. 

 

That's it I think.

[Shello]

42 minutes ago, deftona said:

I have been getting on very well with my cat. 

That's good!  They can be finicky.  But does your cat get along well with D_R?

[deftona]

Just now, Shello said:

That's good!  They can be finicky.  But does your cat get along well with D_R?

 

She is very temperamental and has only ever really liked me. She does like D_R, but only when I am not in the room. The moment she hears me coming down the hall she jumps off his lap and pretends she hates him but she is unaware of camera phones and the evidence they can provide.

[TimovieMan]

9 hours ago, deftona said:

She is very temperamental and has only ever really liked me. She does like D_R, but only when I am not in the room. The moment she hears me coming down the hall she jumps off his lap and pretends she hates him but she is unaware of camera phones and the evidence they can provide.

 

[DarK_RaideR]

10 hours ago, deftona said:

Oh wow, when I am last on the list of most recently updated challenges this challenge cycle I know it's time for an update. 

 

My last update was Saturday and since then I haven't really done much. I haven't trained at all because I find it hard to get out of bed in the morning. I really should though, it would probably do me good. Food has been ok. I haven't been enjoying eating so I have been eating what I have in the freezer and not getting excited about it but it's fuel and that's all it has to be sometimes. I have been getting on very well with my cat. 

 

That's it I think.

If things at the workplace have gone tits up, it's hard enough to deal with that. No need to feel guilty about workouts, updating your challenge or much else. Be kind to yourself ❤️

[Snarkyfishguts]

On 9/10/2024 at 6:12 PM, deftona said:

 

She is very temperamental and has only ever really liked me. She does like D_R, but only when I am not in the room. The moment she hears me coming down the hall she jumps off his lap and pretends she hates him but she is unaware of camera phones and the evidence they can provide.

You’re her BAE, she’s not gonna let you doubt that!

 

17 hours ago, DarK_RaideR said:

If things at the workplace have gone tits up, it's hard enough to deal with that. No need to feel guilty about workouts, updating your challenge or much else. Be kind to yourself ❤️

I second this.

[deftona]

UPDATE

 

Thank you to my wonderful fiance @DarK_RaideR for keeping me accountable and telling me my challenge had dropped to the last page through inactivity. It feels like that's the lowest bar I should set myself. NEVER BE ON THE LAST PAGE. 

 

Work is still utterly mental. The way the work has been split across the remaining members of the team is grossly unfair, with three of us baring the brunt of the work that was done by 12 people when I joined. And I am still running that project on the side. If this was a private company I would be speaking to my union and taking action. It is acknowledged what we're doing. And they're trying to find fixes from this point on, But there are deep rooted problems. 

 

I haven't been exercising still, predominantly because I just don't have the energy to drag myself out of bed before I have to. And after a day at work in the current climate I can't bring myself to do it afterwards either. Similarly with housework - I am doing the bare minimum to keep everything ticking over. Food is fine. To the point where I am maintaining my weight while not really calorie tracking or working out. Greek lessons have also been adhered to. I cleared out a wardrobe for D_R and hung his stuff up in there that he left here last Christmas. That was nice, And he will be here in two weeks time. I'm looking forward to not having to worry about visas and wedding and one of us moving halfway across the world so I have bandwidth for other goals. Things have been in extreme flux since the immigration rules changed last December. 

 

I was contemplating all the things I have achieved this year and it's actually crazy. Probably my most successful year, on paper, in terms of the way I have had to rise to things. I should probably write down all this stuff, but I have learned a lot about what I can achieve and what kind of person I am. 

[deftona]

My wedding dress came yesterday and I AM IN LOVE

 

It fits almost perfectly (as it should, it was made to measure) however if anything it's a little loose around the back as they only asked for titty measurements and my tits are huge compared to my back. Now I have to try and decide if I am going to try for maintenance for these next 6 weeks (harder than it sounds, I'm losing at the moment) or carry on as I am going and just hope I don't lose much off the back and tits as this where the dress is laced up. Thoughts?

[Shello]

On 9/22/2024 at 2:40 AM, deftona said:

Thoughts?

That's a tough call, really.  I don't think I would put my goals on pause for the dress but also probably wouldn't be putting a lot of effort to push myself on the goals.   Whatever you lose in 6 weeks will be great in the long run but probably not too much that it will harm the dress fit.   

[Silmarilliane]

On 9/22/2024 at 8:40 AM, deftona said:

Thoughts?

 

If I lived nearer you I would hunny p do some lil fitting in to whatever size you are for the wedding tbh - might be worth seeing if you know any cosplayers who are good with a needle and thread... I wouldn't intentionally maintain as I'd be likely to go the other way  

[Snarkyfishguts]

 I would say given your history with back pain, you need to do whatever it takes to keep your  body healthy and strong so you aren't crawling down the aisle in agony. ? six weeks is a long time, but I wouldn't change up your routine too much since you are feeling physically well. 

[deftona]

On 9/23/2024 at 2:59 PM, Shello said:

That's a tough call, really.  I don't think I would put my goals on pause for the dress but also probably wouldn't be putting a lot of effort to push myself on the goals.   Whatever you lose in 6 weeks will be great in the long run but probably not too much that it will harm the dress fit.   

 

I think I might just  carry on as I am and stuff my bra to keep my wedding dress on (it's strapless)

 

On 9/23/2024 at 4:50 PM, Silmarilliane said:

 

If I lived nearer you I would hunny p do some lil fitting in to whatever size you are for the wedding tbh - might be worth seeing if you know any cosplayers who are good with a needle and thread... I wouldn't intentionally maintain as I'd be likely to go the other way  

 

I definitely won't be going the other way right now, I think settling into maintenance might be my best goal. 

 

1 hour ago, Snarkyfishguts said:

 I would say given your history with back pain, you need to do whatever it takes to keep your  body healthy and strong so you aren't crawling down the aisle in agony. ? six weeks is a long time, but I wouldn't change up your routine too much since you are feeling physically well. 

 

This is very true, although I haven't worked out in quite a while which would probably help my back! 

[deftona]

Well I have been really leaning into this cosy autumn thing and it's wonderful. Work hasn't been terrible recently, but it's our quietest period of the month. Things are about to kick off again come Friday but that's future Deffy's problem, Outside of work I have been mostly snuggling under blankets with my kitty and reading. This is what autumn is all about for me. 

 

I have started to prep for next year which seems a bit mad since it's only September, but it was only June last Tuesday and look where we find ourselves now. I'm currently eating moussaka straight out of the tub and doing my finances for 2025 (insofar as I can, amongst the uncertainties) like it's 10pm on December 31st and I have some sort of deadline. But I am enjoying myself GOSHDARNIT. 

 

I am about to watch Married at First Sight in the bath though. Utter decadence, that's my current mode. 

 

I hope you are all well

[Laghail]

41 minutes ago, deftona said:

Well I have been really leaning into this cosy autumn thing and it's wonderful. Work hasn't been terrible recently, but it's our quietest period of the month. Things are about to kick off again come Friday but that's future Deffy's problem, Outside of work I have been mostly snuggling under blankets with my kitty and reading. This is what autumn is all about for me. 

 

Soooo here for this level of coziness! 

 

41 minutes ago, deftona said:

I have started to prep for next year which seems a bit mad since it's only September, but it was only June last Tuesday and look where we find ourselves now. I'm currently eating moussaka straight out of the tub and doing my finances for 2025 (insofar as I can, amongst the uncertainties) like it's 10pm on December 31st and I have some sort of deadline. But I am enjoying myself GOSHDARNIT. 

 

I am about to watch Married at First Sight in the bath though. Utter decadence, that's my current mode. 

 

And the combo of responsibility and decadence? Goals. 

[Silmarilliane]

On 9/25/2024 at 7:46 PM, deftona said:

leaning into this cosy autumn thing and it's wonderful

 

Yeah boi

 

On 9/25/2024 at 7:46 PM, deftona said:

but it was only June last Tuesday

 

Time really is a very strange fish

[Cheetah]

On 9/25/2024 at 2:46 PM, deftona said:

Utter decadence, that's my current mode.

 

As it should be.  ?

[deftona]

Challenge Wrap Up. 

 

Well it seems pretty silly to be doing a challenge wrap up when I have barely done a challenge and yet here I am closing the circle. I was very shocked to see that my challenge wasn't yet on the last page despite me allowing it to completely wither and die without updates but I guess there were people worse at updating that I am which would be great if I was grading myself on a curve. 

 

My only hard line here was to track my food every day and I definitely didn't do that, but despite this my weight has held steady which is a good thing because my wedding dress is already on the loose side so I don't have much room for manoeuvre there. Working out has not been happening but since my fiance moved in a few weeks ago, there has been lots of non traditional cardio. 

 

And on that, the wedding planning is coming along nicely - everything is booked including the mini honeymoon after, we picked up the wedding rings last Saturday, the car insurance is sorted so D_R can actually drive us to Scotland (this was a lot harder than it should have been) and all I have left to sort out is my bouquet which will be done tomorrow with my bestie. 

 

Living with D_R is a dream, it's so so easy and fun. We have been eating too many desserts though, we're being extremely decadent. Also, last week Jarric and his lovely girlfriend visited us and it was so nice to meet them both, WW really is wonderful too! 

 

I will try to be a bit better next challenge, but I dunno - something is missing here for me. I think I need the power of The Doodlies, there has been talk of resuscitating them in the new year and it may be just what I need. 

[Silmarilliane]

5 hours ago, deftona said:

non traditional cardio

 

Yeah boi

 

5 hours ago, deftona said:

The Doodlies

 

What is this please?

[deftona]

3 hours ago, Silmarilliane said:

What is this please?

 

I'm not gonna lie, it's a cult. 

 

But we pretend it's an accountability group.

[Shello]

1 minute ago, deftona said:

 

I'm not gonna lie, it's a cult. 

 

But we pretend it's an accountability group.

Quite accurate.  I mean, there is no leaving.  Once you're in, you're in forever.  

[Silmarilliane]

On 10/16/2024 at 4:27 PM, deftona said:

 

I'm not gonna lie, it's a cult. 

 

But we pretend it's an accountability group.

 

On 10/16/2024 at 4:29 PM, Shello said:

Quite accurate.  I mean, there is no leaving.  Once you're in, you're in forever.  

 

Sounds legit, my singing hobby is also very much a cult.